I am straight but…

Submitted by Steve in Birmingham

I am straight but I really love seeing guys wanking. I don’t know how to explain it but I know I really love pussy, I don’t want to suck a cock or fuck a guy, I love my fiancée, all I know is that I get hard when I think about a cock being wanked and when I watch a video with a guy stroking his dick I have to stroke mine too.

I have one best mate I saw wanking his cock when I was about 19. I didn’t join in but I did get hard and then later I went and wanked in the bathroom after seeing him cum. We never did it again and I never had the chance to wank with anyone else after that.

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Now I have another best mate and we started going to the gym this year and I’ve seen his cock a few times in the showers and he always seems to be a little hard. I get hard too just seeing him. I’m confused about it all.

The most I would probably do is wank his cock while he wanked mine. I don’t think I would be into sucking or being sucked by him. I really want to know what it would feel like to have his cock in my hand.

I read something once by another guy who said that he was straight but that being wanked by another guy was one of the best experiences he had, because the other guy knew how to stroke him perfectly. I really want to experience that and feel someone else’s cock in my hand too.

So I guess I might be bisexual? I don’t know.

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Steve, this is something that comes up a lot. The problem (in my opinion) is that we all conform to the three basic labels as if that’s all there is. There are a million gradients of male sexuality and saying you’re bisexual is about as general as it can get. The truth is we all have kinks and interests that make us more unique than that. There are a lot of men out there who identify as gay but don’t have anal sex. There are a lot of men out there who identify as bisexual but prefer emotional relationships with women and have sexual relationships with men – or the other way around. There are a lot of men out there who identify as straight but enjoy masturbation with other men, or sucking, or frott…

There are so many various things that various men find enjoyable, it’s a myth that one specific act or one specific interest changes your entire sexuality. It’s one of the biggest lies about sexuality, while most guys might fit into a very general box we all have traits and interests that might fall outside of that box.

Don’t think about it too much, don’t waste your time feeling as though you need to fit into a specific type. Who are you trying to please? Who is demanding this of you? There is no requirement for anyone to adhere to specific rules about what makes someone gay/bi/straight etc.

I promise you this, if you don’t abandon these notions about what sexuality you should identify with or what you can or cannot do, one day you will reach a point where you regret trying to live up to a specific set of rules somehow enforced by no one. There is no one to judge you, no one to punish you, no one who has any right to tell you what you are or what you should enjoy with men or women. Stop enforcing this nonsense on yourself and just have the sexual fun you want to have with men or women you find you want to have that fun with.