Submitted by Anon in London
“My wife has expressed her disgust at my wanking habits more than a couple of times. It’s not like I get my cock out around the house or in front of the mother in law, she just seems to hate the very idea that I would be enjoying my own penis. I knew she had a religious upbringing, but I never really thought that she was such a puritan. We’ve been married for four years, we’re both in our late 30’s, and she no longer has any sex drive to speak of. It’s become so bad that I now wank in the car, because I feel like she’s watching me if I even try to do it at home. I’m not joking when I say that she asks me questions about why I might lock the bathroom door when I’m in the shower, or what I’m looking at on my iPad, or making comments about a pretty girl on the TV and how I would probably be playing with myself if she wasn’t in the room. Over the last six months I’ve found a couple of secluded spots where I can pull up and enjoy a wank in peace, but I know I should not have to do this.”
Anon, you’re not going to like this, but I think you need to move on with your life away from this woman.
If you’ve discussed this with your wife and she’s not willing to budge then I think this is a doomed relationship. It’s a shame, but I note that you didn’t mention love at all in your full submission, that’s worthy of note.
It seems bizarre to me (and probably many readers) that there would be women out there with this kind of attitude in 2015, but they certainly do exist. You can take a look at numerous sites out there and see plenty of women who seem to want to control their male partners in peculiar ways, dictating how and when they should enjoy their own body. If any man attempts to do that to a woman they are rightly called a misogynistic pig, but somehow the same rules don’t apply to the women constantly complaining about how their man enjoys his own penis.
There are even women out there who openly complain about the objectification of women, while themselves enjoying the objectification of men. Again, there are many double-standards when it comes to gender equality.
Your penis is yours, you can do with it what you wish. While sharing it with someone else would of course be of relevance to her, enjoying it through masturbation is absolutely none of her business. She has absolutely no claim on your body, any more than you have any claim on hers.
I would be telling her that your cock is yours, and she will not tell you how to enjoy it, when to enjoy it, or how much to enjoy it. If she doesn’t like this, she presumably has someone she can live with while she thinks about how ridiculous she is. The very notion that you would be forced out of your own private space, your own personal dwelling, because she is so ignorant and controlling, is unfathomable to me and should not be tolerated.
Having a wife upset about wanking in this day and age is really no longer reasonable. To be perfectly blunt, I would say that you should grow a spine, go home and tell her that you’re going up to the bedroom to have a wank, and if she doesn’t like that she should probably leave and dedicate the rest of her life to inventing a time machine so she can get back to the Puritan England of the 1600’s.
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