BuddyBate Buttons

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Ever wondered if that guy behind the bar would be interested in rubbing one out over porn with a pal? Ever thought that friend you’ve known for a couple of years might be down for stroking but you haven’t been able to ask? The BuddyBate buttons and stickers give them, and you, a chance to subtly display your interest and find guys at random in your local area. Using this map of anonymized data you can see how many buttons/badges/stickers have been delivered to visitors of the site in every city and town around the world! Check it out, and get yours today if you haven’t already.


The First BuddyBate T-Shirt!

The first BuddyBate T-Shirt has arrived! This great debut design features the original BuddyBate logo in group design, depicting the many clubs around the world all sharing their common spirit. It’s the first of what we hope will be an ongoing project with new designs in the years to come. Click here to get yours!

What are BuddyBate Buttons?

Wouldn’t it be great if, wherever you went, you could discreetly display your love of bating and your desire to find buddies to enjoy it with?

There are baters all around the world, in your city/town

We know from the visitor data we see every month that there are hundreds of thousands of horny strokers all around the world, in cities as big as London, Paris and New York, and as small as Lubbock TX, Alexandria MN, and even Grand Junction CO. This number is only growing. There are millions of men who really want to meet up with other men for friendly sessions of porn watching and perhaps mutual bating, and we want to find them all and get a button to them!

With BuddyBate buttons you can subtly signal to others in-the-know that you’re interested in exploring this hobby with other guys. A discreet design unique to us and not advertised anywhere else on the internet allows you to wear your interest for other potential baters to see.

Discreet, affordable, unique.

Imagine going to the gym with one on your ball cap and finding another guy wearing the same. Consider the possibility of heading to class on campus and passing another guy with a button on his bag. Think about the opportunities of going out for a drink and seeing a guy sitting at the next table with one pinned to his jacket.

You immediately know where he got it from, and he likely knows of your interest too thanks to the identical button you’re wearing.

What are BuddyBate Stickers?

After the success of BuddyBate Buttons we decided to expand the range to include three types of stickers, one 80mm adhesive, one 80mm window cling (non-adhesive), and smaller 37mm stickers too. All of these items are the same design and their versatile nature means you can display them in some interesting places. Bators have stickers on the gel bottle they take into the gym showers, the water bottle out on a run, their laptop lid, their car dashboard, the back of their bike out on a ride, their mailbox, their locker at work, their hard hat on the building site, the back of their phone… wherever you think other bators might see it, you can slap one on and see what happens.

What do they look like?

BuddyBate Merch is a simple design with our site colors, and an innocuous text suggesting involvement in a “Social Club”, but that’s all. You could make up any story you like for random inquiring minds, but for those familiar with it, with buttons or stickers of their own, there’s an immediate understanding.

Why the BuddyBate map?

Instead of simply hoping that some interested or curious guys in your immediate area have a button or show off stickers and that you might encounter them at some time, we’ll provide access to the BuddyBate map (above).

While we of course won’t be sharing any personal identifiable data (it goes without saying that the points on the map will not correspond to any physical address), visitors will be able to see how many guys in their local area have purchased one. Just by looking at the interactive map you’ll be able to see that 150 have been sent to readers in Brooklyn NY, that we’ve sent 66 to guys in Ames IA, or that 38 men in Lethbridge Alberta could be going about their day wearing one or have a sticker on their door.

Who knows, maybe your closest friends and colleagues will suddenly be showing off the logo, opening the door to a new level of camaraderie.

Not only will the map give you a great indicator of how many men in your local vicinity you could encounter for some interesting friendship, it’s a great way to encourage others to buy their own buttons and stickers. As you can imagine, if a visitor to the site really wants to bate with someone and they see that another 100 men in their town or city are down for it, they’re gonna want to be showing off that logo!


BuddyBate Buttons FAQ’s

Is delivery discreet?

Yes, always. The items themselves only mention a “Social Club”, our logo isn’t on them, only those who have bought them know what they are and what they mean. We don’t include any other information in the package, just the items. They are delivered in a small brown padded envelope with your address on the front and a return address which makes no mention of this site or what’s inside. For international shipping we are required to add a “CN22” sticker to the back, but this will only show the weight of the package, the value and currency, and make mention of “stickers” or “buttons” as appropriate. There is no reason for anyone else to have any idea what is inside the envelope and even if someone else were to open it all they would find are buttons/stickers with a blue design and the wording, which would mean nothing to them unless they bought some too.

What do BuddyBate Buttons look like?

Our buttons are simple badges, 25mm in diameter, blue and white (the colors of the site) with a central shape reminiscent of the round logo, and a non-descriptive phrase referring to a “Social Club”. They’re common concave metal in shape with a matt finish. We will be looking into having solid metal and enamel pins produced in the future. We do not show their precise appearance as we want to maintain a level of discretion for those wearing one, and encourage readers to buy their own.

What do BuddyBate stickers look like?

They’re exactly the same design as the buttons. We have two sizes of sticker available and one size of window cling (non adhesive). Smaller stickers are 37mm in diameter, larger stickers and window clings are 80mm in diameter. They’re vinyl and durable, they should last for a considerable time even in exposed locations such as on cars or mailboxes.

Where can I get mine?

At this time they’re only available through our partners at BlokeToys. We might seek to “license” the production and delivery of them inside the US in the future. We sell the buttons and larger stickers in packs of two, the smaller stickers in packs of five, and we offer the BuddyBate pack, which includes two buttons, two large stickers, two window clings and five small stickers. All of these options are available at

What does the BuddyBate Map show?

When someone purchases buttons or stickers from BlokeToys we add the city/town to the map, or increase the count accordingly for that area. Each icon on the map represents a town or city, not individuals. This is to allow visitors to see how many other guys in their location have them, and to encourage them to participate. For instance, we may have sold 200 buttons or stickers to bators in Dallas, and we’ll show that on the map so that visitors in that area are encouraged to participate and get their own.

Why do some small towns show more buttons sold than major cities?

There are existing bate groups all over the world. Occasionally we’ll hear from a group in a small town who already bate together but want to attract new members. So, in instances like this, they might buy ten buttons and fifty stickers for their existing members to show off in the hope of attracting new members to their circle. In contrast, some cities don’t have an active scene or members of those groups might not have found us yet.

No one else in my town/city is on the map, why should I buy one?

Other visitors to the map are probably saying the same thing. This merch project requires participation. If you buy buttons, we’ll add a pin to the map for your location, which in-turn might encourage others like you to buy theirs. If everyone looks at the map waiting for someone else in their town/city to appear before they get theirs, no one will ever appear in that location.

What do I do if I see someone wearing one?

Relax, chill out, they’re interested in the same thing you are and you can chat like buddies. There are no “code words”, this isn’t a spy mission, there’s no secret handshake and you don’t need to give them a special wink. They’re just a guy looking to bate with other guys and all you need to do is get talking. You’re sharing a hobby, it’s no different to seeing a guy wearing a band t-shirt and having a drink talking about their last tour.

What if someone I work with or a friend knows what it is?

Then it worked. Only guys interested in bating with other guys know what our buttons and stickers look like, they’re only available from us, they shouldn’t know without either buying one themselves or perhaps getting an inkling by visiting this site or knowing someone else in the community. There is no reason these buttons or stickers should be able to “out you” to anyone who isn’t already a part of this community or interested in the same thing.

Won’t they stand out if I’m wearing just one button/badge?

Possibly. There’s no reason why you can’t buy a couple of other little buttons to wear with it, perhaps for a band you listen to or a charity or brand you appreciate? There are millions of designs out there and it shouldn’t be hard to find another one or two to add and make it less visible to the casual observer.

Where should I wear my BuddyBate Button?

Anywhere you feel is appropriate. We know that wearers display them while they’re working out at the gym, they have one on their bag, wear one while they’re out running, at the office, in the warehouse, at the local bar, at concerts, grocery shopping, on campus… wherever you feel it’s appropriate to wear one.

Where should I put stickers?

Bators have them on their mailboxes, on their lockers at work, on their hard hat on the construction site, on their water bottle out on a run, on the shower gel they use at the gym, on their front door, on the lid of their laptop, on the back of their computer on their desk in the office, on the back of their bike, on their dash… wherever you think a few guys will see it, out one there. We offer the smaller stickers in packs of five for this purpose.

How can I help spread the word?

We’re now getting orders from guys who met other guys at bate meets, clubs and unexpected encounters. Letting other bators you meet know about our buttons and stickers is a great way to encourage their use. Social media is also a great tool for finding other guys interested in the same things, so if you tweet about it, blog it, share it on Tumblr, you could be encouraging other guys to get theirs too. If you’re already part of a bate group, why not encourage other members to get one? Readers here find other guys on tube sites, forums and through groups on sites like KIK, so why not seek out interested guys local to you and let them know about it?

My buttons/stickers haven’t arrived yet, what’s wrong?

We’ve seen that there can be delays to certain locations. Orders to Canada, Australia and some parts of the US can take longer than others. As always, you can ask the guys at BlokeToys any questions and raise any concerns you have with them and they’ll work hard to rectify any problems or provide information when needed.

Will there be other merchandise in the future?

Yes. We’re currently working on scaling up and varying the design for the production of T-shirts. We’re considering keyrings, and whatever else our bators think might be a good option. We’re also investigating the viability of enamel pins for the future (these will be more expensive). We want to ensure we can translate the same design across every item properly so that wearers can be sure it’s recognizable to interested guys.

Why go to all this trouble?

Why not? It’s fun. It’s just a part of your sexual life and if there’s a way to make it easier for interested guys to find each other that can only be a good thing. Most of our readers consider themselves predominantly straight, for most guys here seeking friends for mutual masturbation isn’t as easy as walking into a gay club or using Grindr. Under those circumstances expectations are different, whereas our buttons make clear that both parties are interested in this specific activity. It’s actually like a social club, although a very big one, where guys can find each other in unexpected places without expectations or assumptions. What bator wouldn’t want to be a part of that?


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