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BuddyBate Buttons

Ever wondered if that guy behind the bar would be interested in rubbing one out over porn with a pal? Ever thought that friend you’ve known for a couple of years might be down for stroking but you haven’t been able to ask? The BuddyBate buttons and stickers give them, and you, a chance to subtly display your interest and find guys at random in your local area. Using this map of anonymized data you can see how many buttons/badges/stickers have been delivered to visitors of the site in every city and town around the world! Check it out, and get yours today if you haven’t already.



What are BuddyBate Buttons?

Wouldn’t it be great if, wherever you went, you could discreetly display your love of bating and your desire to find buddies to enjoy it with?

There are baters all around the world, in your city/town

We know from the visitor data we see every month that there are hundreds of thousands of horny strokers all around the world, in cities as big as London, Paris and New York, and as small as Lubbock TX, Alexandria MN, and even Grand Junction CO. This number is only growing. There are millions of men who really want to meet up with other men for friendly sessions of porn watching and perhaps mutual bating, and we want to find them all and get a button to them!

With BuddyBate buttons you can subtly signal to others in-the-know that you’re interested in exploring this hobby with other guys. A discreet design unique to us and not advertised anywhere else on the internet allows you to wear your interest for other potential baters to see.

Discreet, affordable, unique.

Imagine going to the gym with one on your t-shirt and finding another guy wearing the same. Consider the possibility of heading to class on campus and passing another guy with a button on his bag. Think about the opportunities of going out for a drink and seeing a guy sitting at the next table with one pinned to his jacket.

You immediately know where he got it from, and he likely knows of your interest too thanks to the identical button you’re wearing.

What are BuddyBate Stickers?

After the success of BuddyBate Buttons we decided to expand the range to include two types of stickers, one adhesive and one window cling (non-adhesive). These are the same design as the BuddyBate buttons, but they’re larger, 80mm in diameter. They’re a great option for positioning in prominent locations for guys who might recognize it to see. Put a window cling sticker on the inside of your rear windshield, for example, or in the window next to your front door for visitors to potentially see. Slap a sticker on the shower gel bottle you take into the team showers or slap on onto the lid of your laptop for when you’re working at the office or a coffee shop. They’re a great new way to show off your involvement in the community without being obvious to anyone who isn’t also interested.

What do they look like?

BuddyBate Merch is a simple design with our site colors, and an innocuous text suggesting involvement in a “Social Club”, but that’s all. You could make up any story you like for random inquiring minds, but for those familiar with it, with buttons or stickers of their own, there’s an immediate understanding.

Why the BuddyBate map?

Instead of simply hoping that some interested or curious guys in your immediate area have a button or show off stickers and that you might encounter them at some time, we’ll provide access to the BuddyBate map (above).

While we of course won’t be sharing any personal identifiable data (it goes without saying that the points on the map will not correspond to any physical address), visitors will be able to see how many guys in their local area have purchased one. Just by looking at the interactive map you’ll be able to see that 150 have been sent to readers in Brooklyn NY, that we’ve sent 66 to guys in Ames IA, or that 38 men in Lethbridge Alberta could be going about their day wearing one or have a sticker on their door.

Who knows, maybe your closest friends and colleagues will suddenly be showing off the logo, opening the door to a new level of camaraderie.

Not only will the map give you a great indicator of how many men in your local vicinity you could encounter for some interesting times, it’s a great way to encourage others to buy their own buttons and stickers. As you can imagine, if a visitor to the site really wants to bate with someone and they see that another 100 men in their town or city are down for it, they’re gonna want to be showing off that logo!


BuddyBate Buttons FAQ’s

Is delivery discreet?

Yes, always. The items themselves only mention a “Social Club”, our logo isn’t on them, only those who have bought them know what they are and what they mean. We don’t include any other information in the package, just the items. They are delivered in a small brown padded envelope with your address on the front and a return address which makes no mention of this site or what’s inside. For international shipping we are required to add a “CN22” sticker to the back, but this will only show the weight of the package, the value and currency, and make mention of “stickers” or “buttons” as appropriate. There is no reason for anyone else to have any idea what is inside the envelope and even if someone else were to open it all they would find are buttons/stickers with a blue design and the wording, which would mean nothing to them unless they bought some too.

What do BuddyBate Buttons look like?

Our buttons are simple badges, 25mm in diameter, blue and white (the colors of the site) with a central shape reminiscent of the round logo, and a non-descriptive phrase referring to an “International Social Club”. They’re common concave metal in shape with a glossy finish. We will be looking into having solid metal and enamel pins produced in the future. We do not show their precise appearance as we want to maintain a level of discretion for those wearing one, and encourage readers to buy their own.

What do BuddyBate stickers look like?

They’re exactly the same design as the buttons, only bigger and in sticker and window cling form. They’re 80mm in diameter and can be positioned wherever you think it’s appropriate.

Where can I get mine?

At this time they’re only available through our partners at BlokeToys. We might seek to “license” the production and delivery of them inside the US in the future. Each purchase includes 2 X Buttons.

What does the BuddyBate Map show?

When someone purchases buttons from BlokeToys we add the city/town on the map, or increase the sales count accordingly for that area. This is to allow visitors to see how many other guys in their location have one, and to encourage them to participate. For instance, we may have sold 20 buttons to bators in Dallas, and we’ll show that on the map so that visitors to this page are encouraged to participate and get their own.

Why do some small towns show more buttons sold than major cities?

There are existing bate groups all over the world. Occasionally we’ll hear from a group in a small town who already bate together but want to attract new members. So, in instances like this, they might buy 10 buttons for their existing members to wear in the hope of attracting new members to their circle. In contrast, some cities don’t have an active scene or members of groups there might not have found us yet.

No one else in my town/city is on the map, why should I buy one?

Other visitors to the map are probably saying the same thing. This method requires participation. If you buy buttons, we’ll add a pin to the map for your location, which in-turn might encourage others like you to buy theirs. If everyone looks at the map waiting for someone else in their town/city to appear before they get theirs, no one will ever appear in that location.

What do I do if I see someone wearing one?

Relax, chill out, they’re interested in the same thing you are and you can chat like buddies. There are no “code words”, this isn’t a spy mission, there’s no secret handshake and you don’t need to give them a special wink. They’re just a guy looking to bate with other guys and all you need to do is get talking.

What if someone I work with or a friend knows what it is?

Then it worked. Only guys interested in bating with other guys know what our buttons look like, they’re only available from us, they shouldn’t know what one looks like without either buying one themselves or perhaps getting an inkling by visiting this site or knowing someone else in the community. There is no reason one of our buttons should be able to “out you” to anyone who isn’t already a part of this community or interested in the same thing.

Won’t they stand out if I’m wearing just one button/badge?

Possibly. There’s no reason why you can’t buy a couple of other little buttons to wear with it, perhaps for a band you listen to or a charity or brand you appreciate? There are millions of designs out there and it shouldn’t be hard to find another one or two to add and make it less visible to the casual observer.

Where should I wear my BuddyBate Button?

Anywhere you feel is appropriate. We know that wearers display them while they’re working out at the gym, they have one on their bag, wear one while they’re out running, at the office, in the warehouse, at the local bar, at concerts, grocery shopping, on campus… wherever you feel it’s appropriate to wear one.

How can I help spread the word?

We’re now getting orders from guys who met other guys at bate meets, clubs and unexpected encounters. Letting other bators you meet know about our buttons is a great way to encourage their use. Social media is also a great tool for finding other guys interested in the same things, so if you tweet about it, blog it, share it on Tumblr, you could be encouraging other guys to get theirs too. If you’re already part of a bate group, why not encourage other members to get one?

Why are they so expensive for what they are?

Unfortunately, shipping costs can only be pushed so low. In addition to the shipping costs, we had to spend a not-insignificant amount of money to be able to set up the process and gather materials. We didn’t expect them to be so popular so quickly and expected it to be a slow rollout gradually increasing, but the initial interest meant that we were spending more time than expected in packaging, processing and shipping individual orders.

My buttons haven’t arrived yet, what’s wrong?

As mentioned, interest was higher than expected, and we’ve been under a backlog since we started. This is expected to be rectified in October 2018 and orders will begin to be shipped the following day. We’re sorry for the inconvenience some have experienced and the delays can and will be fixed, we just need to catch up the production with the demand.

Will there be other merchandise in the future?

Yes. We’re currently working on scaling up and varying the design for the production of T-shirts. We’re considering smaller stickers, some more obvious designs, keyrings and whatever else our bators think might be a good option. We’re also investigating the viability of enamel pins for the future (these will be more expensive). We want to ensure we can translate the same design across every item properly so that wearers can be sure it’s recognizable to interested guys.

Why go to all this trouble?

Why not? It’s fun. It’s just a part of your sexual life and if there’s a way to make it easier for interested guys to find each other that can only be a good thing. Most of our readers consider themselves predominantly straight, for most guys here seeking friends for mutual masturbation isn’t as easy as walking into a gay club or using Grindr. Under those circumstances expectations are different, whereas our buttons make clear that both parties are interested in this specific activity. It’s actually like a social club, although a very big one, where guys can find each other in unexpected places without warning. What bator wouldn’t want to be a part of that?


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