Submitted by Daniel
I’ve jacked off with a friend a few times and I really enjoyed it. I want to try frotting and hand jobs but I don’t know if my buddy would be into that. I’m not sure what this means about me. I’m 23 and I have a girlfriend and we’ve been together for 15 months. I’m fascinated by dicks and love seeing them being enjoyed and I get real horny thinking about jacking another man and our cocks connecting.
This is a very common question that’s been asked here a lot of times over the years but it’s something I will always address when someone asks, because it’s important.
In my opinion the three labels of straight, bi and gay are far too simplistic. Human sexuality is incredibly complex and diverse, you just need to look at what we consider fetishes to understand just how incredibly complex this aspect of the human experience can be.
Distilling such a complex and diverse collection of sexual interest down to just three categories is like claiming all plant life on earth is either big, medium or small. It doesn’t take into account the billions upon billions of grey areas, genus, type, species etc.
We are all unique in a billion ways, categorizing ourselves is a form of limitation which we should be more open minded about expanding.
There are millions of men who consider themselves entirely heterosexual but enjoy watching porn in which a lot of time is spent on the physiology of the male. If all men were 100% heterosexual wouldn’t the predominant form of pornographic entertainment only include women? Why would men who consider themselves 100% heterosexual want to see a cock in their porn? Why would so many of them enjoy seeing ejaculations so much?
It’s entirely possible to have a heterosexual life and consider yourself heterosexual while having something of a fetish for penises and/or male masturbation. For a lot of men there is an interest in the male anatomy that they view as a separate thing.
There are millions upon millions of men who enjoy trans porn, does this make them bisexual? They clearly have an interest in cocks, but they enjoy it being attached to a feminine figure.
Ultimately you should ask yourself who you’re categorizing your sexuality for. It’s no one else’s business, apart from the activities you enjoy possibly affecting an intimate partner. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you’re not required to have a membership card to depict your allegiance to a branch of human sexual identity.
In the end you just need to be honest to yourself and live your life the way you see fit, regardless of what other people might want to categorize you as being. Their need to put complex things into simple boxes should be irrelevant to you.
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