Does It Mean I’m Bisexual?
Submitted by Daniel
I’ve jacked off with a friend a few times and I really enjoyed it. I want to try frotting and hand jobs but I don’t know if my buddy would be into that. I’m not sure what this means about me. I’m 23 and I have a girlfriend and we’ve been together for 15 months. I’m fascinated by dicks and love seeing them being enjoyed and I get real horny thinking about jacking another man and our cocks connecting.
Hi Daniel
This is a very common question that’s been asked here a lot of times over the years but it’s something I will always address when someone asks, because it’s important.
In my opinion the three labels of straight, bi and gay are far too simplistic. Human sexuality is incredibly complex and diverse, you just need to look at what we consider fetishes to understand just how incredibly complex this aspect of the human experience can be.
Distilling such a complex and diverse collection of sexual interest down to just three categories is like claiming all plant life on earth is either big, medium or small. It doesn’t take into account the billions upon billions of grey areas, genus, type, species etc.
We are all unique in a billion ways, categorizing ourselves is a form of limitation which we should be more open minded about expanding.
There are millions of men who consider themselves entirely heterosexual but enjoy watching porn in which a lot of time is spent on the physiology of the male. If all men were 100% heterosexual wouldn’t the predominant form of pornographic entertainment only include women? Why would men who consider themselves 100% heterosexual want to see a cock in their porn? Why would so many of them enjoy seeing ejaculations so much?
It’s entirely possible to have a heterosexual life and consider yourself heterosexual while having something of a fetish for penises and/or male masturbation. For a lot of men there is an interest in the male anatomy that they view as a separate thing.
There are millions upon millions of men who enjoy trans porn, does this make them bisexual? They clearly have an interest in cocks, but they enjoy it being attached to a feminine figure.
Ultimately you should ask yourself who you’re categorizing your sexuality for. It’s no one else’s business, apart from the activities you enjoy possibly affecting an intimate partner. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, you’re not required to have a membership card to depict your allegiance to a branch of human sexual identity.
In the end you just need to be honest to yourself and live your life the way you see fit, regardless of what other people might want to categorize you as being. Their need to put complex things into simple boxes should be irrelevant to you.
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Nice post Daniel,
Enjoyed your very straightforward comments about your desires and have to say not a lot different from my own. As in the comment above from site -master a lot of us do have a fetish for male anatomy ,myself included. What does this mean anyway, does it mean you, we’re bisexual. I suppose it’s open to interpretation isn’t it ?
I ‘m just like you, I get really aroused thinking about jacking another guy fondling his balls.
What it really means I think, is that if you have these desires you should enjoy them at least until you find your own comfort level . In the meantime you’ll have fun too, don’t worry so much about labels .
Thanks Arlyn. I think you’re right. I’m enjoying jacking it with my buddy and I think I’m just gonna keep on and see where it goes.
Hello,
I don’t think that you are gay or bi-sexual, just very curious about yourself and your sexuality.
Very normal!
Paul
Thanks. I never really thought about sexuality being this complicated before but I think Brad is right and a lot of guys might just have a fetish for dicks and jacking it with guys. I’m gonna go with that and if things change then I’ll work through it and decide who I am. I’m not scared or worried about it. I think it was just a surprise to find out there were so many other guys like me out there. lol
Hey Daniel!
First off, thanks for sharing! This is something that requires some soul searching to find your own way. And finding that way can take as long as you need it to. Don’t worry about labels and let life help you be you.
Thanks Jay. These comments have helped a lot. I think I was just surprised that there are so many other guys like me out there. I don’t need to put myself in a box and I can just carry on enjoying jacking it with my bud and see what happens 🙂
Forget the labels. Guys like cocks even if they’re not into more than wanking. We all like seeing hard dicks being stroked and squirting whether you’re gay bi or straight.
Its more common than I thought. I think that’s what confused me for a while. Glad I’m not the only one. I’m okay with being in this grey area and just enjoying jacking it with guys.
Thank you for your advice Brad. I think I probably just have a fetish for penis and masturbation but I’m cool with considering myself bi.
I agree with the guys saying fuck the labels. I love pussy, can’t get enough, but it’s fucking hot grabbing cocks, rubbing dicks together and shooting loads with dudes. Don’t worry about what people think about your sexuality. If you’re not doing anything illegal it’s no ones business but yours and who you’re enjoying it with.
Couldn’t agree more, Trevor. Fuck labels – that’s what I’ve learned in my 66+ years of jacking off. Enjoy stroking any cock you can get your hands on, even your own. Nothing better than the feel of a stiff cock in your hand, and it’s a huge rush for me to successfully make someone else cum – male or female – because cumming just fucking feels so good. Feeling another guy’s balls pumping cum, and seeing it spurt out, is so hot.
Are there any sites for older bators. I’m 77 but still horny. Have jacked off with another guy a few times, jacking each other, and I like seeing and feeling a hard cock and making each other cum.
Are there any sites for older bators? Im 77 but still horny and like the look and feel of a hard cock and making each other cum.