From Social Club To Jack Off Club

Submitted by Ken

I wanted to share what I think is the best way to start a jack off club.

I wanked with a friend years ago and I really missed that friendship. We never wanked each other but we had a lot of great times wanking to porn and seeing each other cum.

I’m a straight married man in my 40s and when I found BuddyBate and learned about the clubs around the world I was really intrigued about it. I couldn’t find any information about any club like it in my city but even if I had I didn’t think I would have the balls to join in. That’s how I came up with my idea.

My wife was okay about it. We talked about things and I explained that I really wanted to find a group of male friends. I didn’t really have any male friends at the time and I felt like I’d been missing out. I was honest with her about my interest in sharing masturbation with guys and while she didn’t really get it she was okay about it.

The only problem for me was that I never did anything like that with a group of guys before and I knew a lot of other guys would be in the same position. I know a lot of readers here are cool with just joining a group of men and getting their cocks out but for me that seemed like too much too quickly. I wanted to find men who were cool about it all but where that wasn’t the specific reason for meeting.

I guess I thought it would be better to have a pretext and then just see how things went. I knew it would be better to have a group of guys who were all friends and shared all kinds of interests, but that wanking off with each other was also an option we could get into.

So I came up with a solution.

I didn’t start a masturbation club, I started a Men’s Social Club.

I made a logo, got a domain and installed WordPress and a newsletter. After that I started looking around online for local guys who I thought would be interested. That was a lot easier than I expected. I looked at swinger sites, forums, tube sites and BuddyBate and sent messages to local guys I thought sounded sane and reasonable and invited them to join the social club. Most of these places have the location of members so I just fired off a few DMs or emails and asked if they would be interested in joining a men’s group where masturbation is an option between members but not all it’s about.

The main thing was that all these guys were in the city and they all showed at least an interest in wanking with other guys. Some of them had posted comments about it or had it in their bios on these sites. There was no mistaking why everyone was interested in the group, but it wasn’t the main thing about the group, which I think gave everyone some space to be more relaxed about things.

I probably sent about 30 messages the first month and we had 12 members by the end of it. These were all local men between 22 and 55. They had all joined the social club, not a wanking club. That was the difference.

This was right after the pandemic so maybe I just timed it right and a lot of guys were desperate to get something started but it was a success.

I started a Discord community for our group where all the members could talk and we started planning things. The first thing was a Sunday afternoon pub visit.

9 guys showed up and we had a great time! There was a little bit of nervousness at the start and conversations were slow but because everyone had already introduced themselves on discord and shared basics about their hobbies and lifestyle after an hour and a couple of pints each everyone loosened up and we all started to plan other events.

It was all spontaneous and organic. Someone suggested a camping weekend in the summer and everyone was interested in that. Two of the guys realized they were both going to see a band the next month and then three other members bought tickets to join them. One of the guys suggested having a “film night” and we all knew that meant “porn night” but only four guys were immediately signing up for that.

Things grew quickly. Everyone was meeting up for all kinds of different things. Guys went to football together, others joined the gym to workout together, a few of the guys in the center of town started a running group. We made the Sunday pub meetings a regular event on the first and third Sunday of the month, going to different venues.

We found another 5 members in the first few months. 3 of those were guys members had wanked with via other means, 2 were late replies from my first messages to online locals.

Most of the guys are straight and married, but we have a few gay and bi guys. It’s a diverse group of men but everyone is reasonable and easy to get along with.

Almost everyone was meeting up with everyone else for all kinds of things and I knew a few had already started sharing their wanks.

We only had two guys who weren’t getting involved. No one had met up with them and they hadn’t been to any of the meetings. I asked each one if he wanted to meet up one-on-one just for a drink and to say hi but one kept making excuses and the other never got back to me, so I removed them from the group and said they could come back any time as long as someone in the group could vouch for them and had met them.

One of the rules I set from the start was that every member of the group had to meet up with at least one other member in the first 2 months. It didn’t have to be for a wank or anything like that. They could just meet up for coffee or a beer. We just had to know they were real, they were local and that they actually wanted to be involved. To make sure the members felt comfortable being in the group we had to remove guys who looked like they were just lurking or wasting people’s time.

On top of that, if anyone had concerns about anyone else, like they kept bailing on meetings or they were just doing the absolute minimum to stay in the group, they would be kicked out.

In the end we came up with a new plan that all members have to attend at least one event every month. That can be just a one-on-one with another member or a pub afternoon with the group. We thought that was the least we could expect from members. There is always stuff going on and everyone is down to meet up with everyone else so it’s not like anyone doesn’t have enough opportunities.

Some guys just put in the group when they’re on a lunch break and asking if anyone wants to meet up. Most of the time it really is just to have lunch together but of course are times when it’s a wank meet. A few of the guys all discovered they work in the same area so they have even more opportunities to meet up after work before going home.

One of the best things about our group is that everyone quickly found at least one good friend. I consider everyone in the group a good friend but I found two I really connected with. After 2 months of regular socializing with them it was so easy to plan a film night and have that first wank experience. I shared wanks with both of them individually and then we got together for our first circle jerk. This was the first time I touched another cock and got a hand job from a guy and it was everything I imagined it would be and more. We shared frotting and I even delivered two loads that night! lol

The friendship we already had made it all so much easier.

We’ve been growing ever since. We now have 36 members across the city. Everyone meets up with other members for all kinds of things but they all have their own bator friendships too, just as something friends do together.

Not everyone is into mutual masturbation. Some just like to be watched or enjoy watching porn and wanking with other men. Some like to get hand jobs. Some like to frot with several cocks at once. It’s all very diverse and varied but everyone understands everyone’s limits and what they’re interested in.

We’ve had several group events when space allows. The most we’ve ever got together for one big bator party was 27 and it was one of the best experiences of my life.

We want to make the parties a more regular thing but it’s difficult to find a venue for everyone to get together. I’m thinking about planning a party at the gay sauna because that way everything is there and we just need to all turn up at the same time. Some of the guys in the group are a little wary of that though, they’re worried other guys there might want more than just a wank so we’re gonna have wristbands that say “WANKS ONLY”.

I haven’t needed to advertise it the group again or seek out local guys since that first month. All the new members we’ve found since we started have come from meeting up with other members. We probably average another member every month right now, but it was more last summer so I think we’re probably going to see that increase again this summer.

When I started all this I thought I might be able to create a group that eventually just turns into a wank club, but that’s not what happened. Within the Men’s Social Club we have different groups. There’s a walking group who go on hikes, a car club, a running group, a gym group, there’s a film club (both porn and regular movies), a poker club, a camping club, a fishing group, a brewing club, and of course the circle jerk club that everyone is a member of.

To give you an idea of how varied our club members are we have a lawyer, two plumbers, an accountant, two musicians, a landscaper, a fireman, 3 managers for supermarket chains, 4 college students and a nurse. That’s just off the top of my head but I think it shows how interesting it can be when the guys all get together.

There are lots of different cocks too. One of the guys has almost 9 inches, another has 5. Some are thick dicks, others are slim. Some can shoot huge loads others just a splash.

All of this makes it interesting and fun.

It’s been almost a year and our club is going strong.

It’s one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done and not just because there’s so much fun to be had rubbing dicks with other guys. I’ve met so many great men and been exposed to so many new hobbies and interests because of it. I’d never been camping before our trip last August and I never thought I would enjoy playing Poker.

We have a lot of things planned for this year. We’re going to music festivals in the summer, another camping trip is planned, one of the guys is getting married in November so everyone is looking forward to the bachelor party and a few guys are going to Amsterdam with him for a lad’s weekend.

So I suppose the purpose of this submission is to show you guys that there is a way to create a great community of men where it’s not all JUST about wanks. I think a lot of guys really want this kind of scenario where men can be men together but it’s not all just about that. Not many guys are going to be comfortable walking into a circle jerk without any kind of build up to it. If you give guys the means to build those friendships where masturbation is on the cards but not all it’s about, you’ll soon find yourself with a great club on your hands!

I personally think almost half of all guys would love to have the kind of friendships where shared wanking is possible, but they need other excuses to find those like-minded guys.

“If you build it, they will cum” lol

Thanks to BuddyBate for inspiring me to get all this started, and all the guys who contribute here and unknowingly convinced me to get things moving with their experience posts.

If anyone wants any advice about starting something like this I’ll be happy to answer questions in the comments. It would be a pleasure to help other guys set up their own social clubs.

Who knows, maybe in a few months there will be another 10 clubs all over the country?

Thanks!

Ken

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