How do I find bators to explore with?

Submitted by BaterDick

Hey I’m a 25 year old guy who has always been comfortable being naked around other guys and seeing other guys cocks. I recently discovered that I really enjoy comparing cocks and jerking with other guys, I’m wondering what is the best way to meet like minded guys and how to find a bate club. I live near Rochester NY. Any advice is appreciated, thank you!

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Thanks for your submission.

You’re in the right place to find other local guys and groups. If you take a look at our Wank Clubs page you’ll find the New York Jacks listed there. Although they were on hiatus during Covid (like most social groups) they have returned this year and are hosting two gatherings per week. Sunday events are held at an address which members need to be informed of, Tuesday events are held at the Paddles Club 250 West 26th Street.

I understand this is quite a distance from Rochester, but many men travel to visit bate clubs and find that very rewarding.

Alternatively there is another club in Toronto, held at Spa Excess twice a month.

When it comes to meeting other bators individually or in groups outside of formal events there are numerous options.

Obviously we have the personals section here, where readers can submit their own post to be shown in a geographical category for other local men to browse. This allows you to get in touch directly with other local guys who are interested in the same things. You can find the Rochester posts here.

Many of our readers also use other forums, social sites and tube sites to locate other local men they can get in touch with. The scene is very diverse and you’ll find men who are seeking friendships that are open to shared masturbation as well as men who are just seeking a random meet up with a fellow bator to swap hands, cum and go. It really depends on what kind of encounter you’re looking for – friends who happen to be cool with shared masturbation or just quick meets for rubbing.

Some of our readers use apps like Grindr, but the feedback on this is mixed. Most men who use apps like that are seeking more than just masturbation, so the chances of finding a local guy using such an app who is only down to stroke with another man is significantly lower.

Cruising is another option. There are locations in every large city where guys go to explore their sexual curiosity with other men. There are numerous locations like this in Rochester and a little online searching might reveal public restrooms or gyms which have a reputation for offering such random encounters. This comes with risk, of course.

Adult theaters are another option. I’m not sure how many there are in your area but there are usually a few you could visit and likely find similarly minded men.

We also have the BuddyBate Button Project. This allows men from all over the world to discreetly display their interest using stickers, buttons and lapel pins all with a unique design that only those who also have them will recognize. This allows you to seek out other local guys wearing a pin or a button, or guys with stickers on their vehicles or water bottle at the gym etc. When you have one of these exclusive items you know what to look for and you might find other local men displaying the same symbol. This allows you to start a conversation understanding that you’re both interested in the same thing.

In my experience once you’ve found one or two local bators it opens up a world of new encounters. You’ll likely meet other bators through those you already bate with, which in time leads to the formation of groups and formal clubs for the growing community in a city.

I hope this helps 🙂

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