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I don’t get it, but I’m real curious about shooting a load with a guy

Submitted by HW

I’m a 35-year-old white male, engaged to be married, just bought a house with my wife-to-be, and I can’t stop thinking about what it would be like to jerk off with a guy.

I’ve never done it before. The closest I’ve come to it was a drunken threesome when I was 22 and a buddy and me picked up a girl at a local bar. We had a great time. He had a nice looking cock and I remember thinking about what it would be like to feel it in my hand.

I guess I’ve been curious about this for a while.

I know a couple of guys who I think would be interested in it. They’re the kind of guys who would probably be cool watching porn, having a beer and jerking off, but not jerking each other.

Does this mean I’m bisexual now? I don’t think I am. I love pussy, I love my fiance, I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with her, but now and then I see guys at the gym or I see a video and I start thinking about what it would be like to just stroke and rub dicks with another guy. I’m hard right now just thinking about my cock rubbing against another man’s dick.

I’ve read some of the stories and experiences here and they get me so fucking hot I need to jerk off and shoot a load straight away.

Hi HW,

Thanks for your message.

Believe it or not your message is pretty much identical to about ten other’s we’ve had over the last couple of years. You’re one of a massive number of guys who feel the same way. The problem, in my opinion, is that men are often pushed into a category that’s entirely man made. The notions of gay, straight and bi don’t reflect actual reality for a lot of men, the same could be said for guys who consider themselves mostly gay but can’t get over that one little appreciation for women’s breasts. I’ve met gay men like this.

Nature doesn’t conform to our notions of sexuality in the same way it doesn’t conform to anything else we do. The simplistic assignment of the three labels doesn’t take into account the various factors that go into making you who you are. It doesn’t consider the fact that masturbation could be a fetish all of its own, that guys might have a specific interest in cock but nothing else about the male physique. It doesn’t consider that friendship, camaraderie and natural male bonding could play a significant role in this too.

Masturbation is something we all do, it could be said that it makes sense that it would be a fetish for a lot of men in the same way boobs or butts are, because it’s the first experience most of us had with sexual pleasure.

Doesn’t it kind of make sense that men would develop something of a fetish for masturbation given that we enjoy it so much?

I can’t offer you any advice on how to proceed with regard to your relationship, some men consider it cheating to masturbate with other guys while they’re in a relationship, other’s just see it as a healthy outlet and part of their existing friendship with other men. Really, I think it depends on how you think she would feel about it.

I can say that you have nothing to be ashamed or confused about. It’s one little facet of your being, it’s nothing to get stressed over. Really, who cares if you’re interested in sharing masturbation with other guys? It’s no one else’s business but yours and the person/people you are with. Ignore what you imagine it “makes you”, it doesn’t make you any different to the person you were before you started thinking about this. If anything has changed, you’re just more open and aware, more in-tune with your sexual interests.

I’ll finish this post the way I finish a lot of these advice posts:

We’re only here for a short amount of time, on a tiny rock, in the middle of a gigantic universe too vast to comprehend. When you look at it like this, isn’t it a little ridiculous to be worried about how we share pleasure with other adults? You also have to consider what would be worse, ending your days regretting doing something you didn’t enjoy or had negative consequences you hadn’t foreseen, or not experiencing it at all because of unnecessary limitations you placed on yourself?

Whatever you do, have fun, and congratulations on your marriage!

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4 thoughts on “I don’t get it, but I’m real curious about shooting a load with a guy

  • October 3, 2018 at 12:44 am

    Welcome to the world of ” normal ” , you’re as normal as they come. Somewhere between 60 and 70 % of men feel just like you including me.

    Labels mean little in a world where everyone wishes to label everyone else, so don’t worry about a label just enjoy it.

  • October 8, 2018 at 11:16 am

    I didn’t get it when I was watching guys rubbing cocks and wanking each other but the first time I wanked with a mate I knew it was gonna be something I did a lot from then on. There’s nothing like it. I love the feel of another cock in my hand and it’s great to have an experienced hand playing with mine. My girlfriend is pretty good at wanking me off but my mate does it better and we can properly edge our dicks for ages.

  • October 9, 2018 at 3:35 pm

    Label’s are for packages and mail.
    You are normal as they come.
    I worked with a guy who was 59yo.
    Married with a son. Came from a very religious upbringing. I was 28 and had a girlfriend.
    Was out for a drive and saw his car parked next to a walking trail, he and I would work out in the office gym every day, so I thought he may be getting ready to do a walk.
    Anyway moving ahead, I stopped next to his car and he got nervous, making strange movements, he was shocked to see me, and asked what I was doing here, we’ll you know the answer.
    He kept moving like he was trying to pull up his pants. I asked what was wrong?
    He said he might as well tell me, but he was jerking off when I pulled up.
    I apologized, said that’s no big deal and that I do it all the time, he was suprised and asked really? Told him yes ever guy does it.
    He explained to me that he never did until 3 years prior and found it felt so good he has been doing daily ever since.
    I asked if he wanted me to leave so he could continue? He said that wasn’t needed, since we see each other naked every day in the shower.
    He then asked if I had ever done it with a close friend? Laughing I said hell yes.
    He said he has never had the chance or the guts to ask a friend to do that but wanted to.
    I told him he hasn’t asked the right friend, surprised he looked at me and asked if I would do it with him?
    I said sure, but come back to my house where we won’t be bothered.
    Any way he did, we d I d and did it every day in the showers at wirk.
    He said once he did it for the first time he was hooked. He said he found a porn mag. In his sons room and saw a group of guys jerking off together over a woman’s face.
    So you see, it doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from, it is a natural part if being a man.
    Thanks buddy for sharing.
    Oh one more thing, (yes) we did hand swapping and frothing together.

    • December 3, 2018 at 3:47 am

      Damn Lee that is a hot experience. What makes it so appealing is the new openness and communion with someone you already knew. Add to that the transcending of age differences. The need to bond is universal.


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