Submitted by HW
I’m a 35-year-old white male, engaged to be married, just bought a house with my wife-to-be, and I can’t stop thinking about what it would be like to jerk off with a guy.
I’ve never done it before. The closest I’ve come to it was a drunken threesome when I was 22 and a buddy and me picked up a girl at a local bar. We had a great time. He had a nice looking cock and I remember thinking about what it would be like to feel it in my hand.
I guess I’ve been curious about this for a while.
I know a couple of guys who I think would be interested in it. They’re the kind of guys who would probably be cool watching porn, having a beer and jerking off, but not jerking each other.
Does this mean I’m bisexual now? I don’t think I am. I love pussy, I love my fiance, I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with her, but now and then I see guys at the gym or I see a video and I start thinking about what it would be like to just stroke and rub dicks with another guy. I’m hard right now just thinking about my cock rubbing against another man’s dick.
I’ve read some of the stories and experiences here and they get me so fucking hot I need to jerk off and shoot a load straight away.
Thanks for your message.
Believe it or not your message is pretty much identical to about ten other’s we’ve had over the last couple of years. You’re one of a massive number of guys who feel the same way. The problem, in my opinion, is that men are often pushed into a category that’s entirely man made. The notions of gay, straight and bi don’t reflect actual reality for a lot of men, the same could be said for guys who consider themselves mostly gay but can’t get over that one little appreciation for women’s breasts. I’ve met gay men like this.
Nature doesn’t conform to our notions of sexuality in the same way it doesn’t conform to anything else we do. The simplistic assignment of the three labels doesn’t take into account the various factors that go into making you who you are. It doesn’t consider the fact that masturbation could be a fetish all of its own, that guys might have a specific interest in cock but nothing else about the male physique. It doesn’t consider that friendship, camaraderie and natural male bonding could play a significant role in this too.
Masturbation is something we all do, it could be said that it makes sense that it would be a fetish for a lot of men in the same way boobs or butts are, because it’s the first experience most of us had with sexual pleasure.
Doesn’t it kind of make sense that men would develop something of a fetish for masturbation given that we enjoy it so much?
I can’t offer you any advice on how to proceed with regard to your relationship, some men consider it cheating to masturbate with other guys while they’re in a relationship, other’s just see it as a healthy outlet and part of their existing friendship with other men. Really, I think it depends on how you think she would feel about it.
I can say that you have nothing to be ashamed or confused about. It’s one little facet of your being, it’s nothing to get stressed over. Really, who cares if you’re interested in sharing masturbation with other guys? It’s no one else’s business but yours and the person/people you are with. Ignore what you imagine it “makes you”, it doesn’t make you any different to the person you were before you started thinking about this. If anything has changed, you’re just more open and aware, more in-tune with your sexual interests.
I’ll finish this post the way I finish a lot of these advice posts:
We’re only here for a short amount of time, on a tiny rock, in the middle of a gigantic universe too vast to comprehend. When you look at it like this, isn’t it a little ridiculous to be worried about how we share pleasure with other adults? You also have to consider what would be worse, ending your days regretting doing something you didn’t enjoy or had negative consequences you hadn’t foreseen, or not experiencing it at all because of unnecessary limitations you placed on yourself?
Whatever you do, have fun, and congratulations on your marriage!