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I just love the bator friendship we have

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Submitted by TopBanana

A lot of guys talk about the horniness of their bator experiences but I thought it would be good to focus on the friendship between bators.

I’ve been bating with the same buddy for nearly ten years. We started wanking together in 2013, just a couple of horny lads in our 20s who weren’t shy about things. I’ve always been into sports and I think guys like me just get used to that environment. I think if you spend enough time naked around friends there’s a higher chance you’re not gonna be weirded out about watching porn and wanking off together.

None of my mates were ever timid about stuff. There was always a lot of banter, showing off and dick slapping going on between the lads, and I think it just got us all used to that kind of relaxed attitude. I saw a lot of my mates get stiff. Saw lads having pissing contests. We had mates comparing dicks and giving it some wanks to get a bit harder for an extra inch lol

We never had cum shot contests in the showers like some bators I’ve read about but that would have been fun. I probably would have participated in something like that if it happened. I don’t think many of the lads would have been scared to i just don’t think any of them ever really thought about doing it.

I always just assumed that was what it was like for most guys but I suppose it’s about the environment and if you’re not exposed to that kind of attitude around your mates it might seem strange. Can anyone else who was into sports confirm that their mates were like that too? Maybe I just got lucky with the team I was on and the guys I was hanging out with. I guess there might be cultural differences. Sometimes I think us Brits might be more easygoing about this kind of stuff than Americans. I get the feeling most Americans don’t have communal showers anymore while most of us English lads on footie, rugby or cricket teams aren’t shy about all piling into an open shower room.

Me and my mate just started enjoying porn together openly one day. I can’t pinpoint exactly when we started or how it happened but I think we were probably just hanging out and having a few beers when we put some porn on and just got our dicks out for a wank. Like I said we were both used to all that kind of banter with the lads over the years so just flopping it out and giving it some rubs wasn’t a weird thing for a couple of mates to do.

People might think we should have been nervous about it or feel strange about doing that with another guy but we’d seen each other’s dicks so many times it really wasn’t strange or uncomfortable at all.


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I don’t think we even paid attention to cum shots those first few times. I just remember finishing up and shooting my wad into my hand and he was already going to the bathroom to clean up, or laying back on the couch with streaks of jizz up his chest. He usually shoots his load first.

I think we were wanking for a few months before we got into games and dares. Looking back on it it’s pretty funny we never really had much interest in wanking each other until we tried it. It was just a couple of wankers fucking around but when we grabbed each other and had that first feel I think we both realized it was fun to give each other a hand.

I don’t even know exactly how that happened but I think we dared each other to swap, just to see what it was like.

We don’t always wank each other. It depends on the mood and what we feel like doing. We’re just used to it now though so if one of us just reaches out to help the other we’ll swap.

We’ve had a lot of fun with lubes and toys over the years. We’ve got a good collection of sleeves we like to play with and we buy each other toys to enjoy together. We’ve got a plan to spend a big chunk of money on one of those life size pussy and arse toys to fuck for some DP fun but they’re so expensive!

I don’t want to sound all soppy but our friendship is something special. After so many years of this we’re the closest of any of our mates. People sometimes think we’re brothers even though we look nothing alike and we’re the same age, there’s just two months between our birthdays. He got married in 2018 and I was his best man. I’m getting married in 2025 and he’s gonna be my best man. Our partners know about our friendship and how close we are and although my girlfriend thought it was weird at the start she’s cool with it now.

They know we wank a lot and they don’t care. They just think it’s horny mates being horny mates, no big deal. It’s not something either of us is embarrassed about. I mean I wouldn’t go into work and tell everyone I wanked off with my best mate the night before but it’s not a big secret we keep from our other mates. None of them seem particularly weirded out by it. The only one who made a big deal about it was shut down by some of our other mates calling him a prude and a pussy and saying he acted like he was obsessed with our dicks. He shut up about it after that lol

I never really thought about it much but I think it’s possible some of those lads have wanked off with their mates too. Maybe that’s why they don’t think it’s weird either.

I can’t imagine being in my 30s and not having a mate I can be this chilled out with. We tell each other everything. I don’t think there’s much either of us could say to the other that would shock us.

We talk every day. We text all the time. We go to the pub every week. We have a good wank a few times a month, usually whenever the girls go out for a night.

Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think I would have this kind of friendship with someone I hadn’t wanked off with so many times. It’s just so easy and comfortable. It’s like being able to do this together so openly and without shame has created this special bond that I don’t think most other guys have with their male friends. I wouldn’t change any of it and I wish more guys had the opportunity to be so close and comfortable with their male friends.

I would recommend it.

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14 thoughts on “I just love the bator friendship we have

  • January 6, 2022 at 7:11 pm
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    Would be great to enjoy this too. If you guys were living near London, it’d be great to meet up. No worries if not though. My kik: steviepeters012

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  • January 6, 2022 at 11:03 pm
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    I was a swimmer in college in the 80s and there was always a lot of jacking off in the showers. Mostly it was certain cliques of guys who were good buddies and didn’t care. I heard rumors about circle jerks with one of the coaches (a bit weird now looking back on it) but I never had the balls to get involved. Didn’t get the courage to look into jacking it with buddies until a few years later when I started with a neighbor.

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    • January 7, 2022 at 2:10 pm
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      Hi Teddy63. I think I speak for everyone when I say we would love to read about your experiences! If you’re able to please visit the contact page and submit something, we would really love to read more about it! 🙂

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  • January 6, 2022 at 11:15 pm
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    This is the friendship I want. I lost touch with most of my buddies when I got married and moved to Utah. Some of them were easygoing like this and would probably be great bate buddies today. I don’t know where to start trying to find a buddy like this.

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  • January 7, 2022 at 12:21 am
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    I played hockey and a lot of guys liked showing off in the showers. Never saw any wanks or cum shots but guys would freely compare. There was always someone trying to disguise it by talking about pussy. I think they just needed an excuse to explain the boners.

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    • January 7, 2022 at 2:08 pm
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      Hi RickyT! Would you be interested in writing something we can publish for our readers to enjoy? Sounds like you had an interesting experience. You can submit experiences by visiting the contact page. I hope you’ll consider it 🙂

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  • January 7, 2022 at 7:32 am
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    I played football in Lincoln from 2004 to 2008 and the most we had in the showers was a few of the lads getting hard (me included) but no one ever said anything about it I think everyone just pretended they didn’t see. Wish I had wanks with those mates. Some of them had fucking amazing cocks.

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  • January 7, 2022 at 11:47 am
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    I can say from experience playing rugby in my 20s that our attitudes were the same. Loads of banter with the other lads and plenty of dicks getting hard and guys showing off. My mates then were a bit more into it I guess because a few of them did have wanks and cum competitions in the showers. That usually happened when there was loads of pussy talk lol
    There was never any hand jobs or frotting but a few of the guys weren’t shy about slinging their jizz out in front of their mates.
    I had proper wanks with a few lads back then just not in the showers.

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  • January 7, 2022 at 12:20 pm
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    I used to play footie and there were loads of dicks getting hard in the showers all the time. Same thing with the banter and talking about sex got lads worked up. Only ever saw one of the lads properly wanking it and I got so hard I thought I would just start squirting cum all over the showers! I left quickly and had a wank in the woods on the way home. Wish I’d stayed and watched him cum. There was 2 other lads in the showers at the time and I still don’t know if they even noticed him wanking or whether they were waiting for me to either join in or leave so they could have their usual wank sesh. Still get hard thinking about it.

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    • January 7, 2022 at 1:58 pm
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      I hope you’ll send in your experience we would love to publish it for the readers!

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  • January 7, 2022 at 6:51 pm
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    I wish I had this kind of buddy. All of my experiences were very anonymous and mostly just guys jacking each other at glory holes in the 80s. I did have a lot of voyeuristic experiences in showers but I was always too scared to join in. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  • January 10, 2022 at 5:14 pm
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    Loved this story. hope to hear more about your friendship whether it’s on here or hit me up on snap cheese900900

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  • February 21, 2022 at 3:07 am
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    I’d love to have a friendship like that. I have close friends, but none that crossed that threshold. I’ve thought about some of my friends in that way, but I’m far too afraid to say anything to them about it. Maybe one day.

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