I want to go to a club but I’m so nervous about it

Submitted by Mike98

I’m in my early 20s and never wanked with a mate before. Came close a few times but it was just banter with lads getting their dick out and showing off a hard one, that kind of thing.

I’m straight but I love reading about mates enjoying their wanks. The stories always make me cum. I’ve read other bators here saying they just have an interest in it and like looking at and handling cocks and I think that’s me. Watching guys wanking together and rubbing dicks on video is one of the horniest things for me. Even better when it’s a MMF threesome and the girl is making the lads rub their dicks together!

This year has really made me want to get into it properly and have my first experience. I decided to kick myself up the arse and got my BuddyBate pin and stickers in February to show off at the gym but then the world went to shit so I haven’t found any other lads yet. I don’t know what I would do if a guy noticed it or a I saw a guy with the logo but I get hard thinking about it.

When I heard about the London Jack Off Club I started thinking about what that would be like to go. I can just imagine a massive room with a hundred guys all enjoying their wank and helping each other, just a bunch of guys all enjoying their favourite hobby, so many cocks to play with! I get so turned on thinking about it but I know I would be too scared to go. What if I saw someone I know or work with?

It’s fucking amazing knowing it sells out every week and I would probably be lucky to get a ticket. It must be packed full of all kinds of cocks all being wanked and shared around and just thinking about that makes me want to cum a massive load lol

I know there are loads of other smaller clubs and I could probably go to a men’s sauna or something but that still scares me. I think the saunas are worse because most of the guys will probably want to suck and do other stuff and I just want to rub dicks.

I’ve got a good body and a 7″ cock and I can cum a lot. I think a lot of guys would really like to play with my dick. I don’t have any body issues and I wouldn’t mind playing with any guy as long as we’re both having fun with our dicks and we understand the limit is hand jobs and frotting. I don’t know why I’m so scared of just going for it and seeing what it’s like. One of these clubs where everyone knows what they’re there for is the ideal situation for me.

Maybe I’ll finally push myself into it when things are properly open again. I feel like I’ve been missing out on a lot and I just hope I can keep this horniness going to actually make myself go to one.

Thanks for the blog and the stories. All the experiences are keeping my dick hard and my cum flowing 🙂

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Hi Mike98,

Thanks for your submission.

Whenever I offer advice on these things I always find myself saying “you’re not alone, this is normal”. That’s even more the case this time. A lot of men would love to go to a club and find a group of like-minded guys just down to have fun with their dicks in their hands and the vast majority of them never will because they’re nervous about what it will be like, what will be expected of them, what it might mean about them and so on and so on…

I can speak from experience and tell you that it is nerve-wracking the first time. I’m not gonna lie.

Many, many moons ago I was a young man just starting dating for the first time and a friend had set me up on a blind date with a gorgeous girl he worked with. We’d talked by phone and being the gentleman I am I let her pick the venue. It was in another town at a restaurant I’d never been to. I spent the entire day of the date panicking about getting the right train, arriving on time, finding the restaurant from the station, walking into a place I’d never even seen (a posh place far out of my usual style), and finding someone I’d never met to give her the first experience of me and who I am.

I was a sweaty, nervous, thirsty wreck when I got to the table and met her and I made a complete moron of myself downing three beers in about ten minutes.

Needless to say we didn’t have a second date lol

But you know what? The next time I did something like that it was far easier and I didn’t make a complete tit of myself.

I experienced the same sense of panic and anxiety the first time I went to a jack off club. I’d wanked with other guys before, just mates watching porn and rubbing one out, sometimes giving each other a hand, but this was different.

I was so nervous and I thought about the same things you’re thinking about. The biggest one was what if I see someone I know? But the truth is, so what if you do? They’re there for the same reason you are and neither of you has any power over the other. It’s a level playing field. I’ve heard about guys going to a club and finding guys they work with, and it worked out better than fine because once they knew they were into the same things they had regular mates to meet up with outside of the club.

Ultimately the fear comes from the unknown. You’re mostly nervous about it because it’s a new environment with nothing familiar about it. But once you have that familiarity your fears will pass. The first step is to expose yourself to that environment and experience it, then you’ll know if it’s really for you or not quite the kind of thing you’re looking for.

I can tell you that in my experience the men who attend such events are generally great guys, interesting, horny, fun to be around etc. Sure, there might be the occasional guy who’s there looking for something more, you’ll probably have at least one or two guys asking if you want to go somewhere to suck or fuck, but you just say you’re not into that. 99% of men at these clubs are entirely respectful of each other’s limits. If you don’t want to touch another cock that’s fine. If you just want to watch, that’s okay. If you want to join a circle jerk and share some friendly-fire cum shots that’s good too… there are guys into various levels of bator interaction at these events and you’ll probably soon find yourself falling in with a good crowd after a few visits.

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And, of course, it goes without saying that these clubs are the perfect place to find long-term jack off buddies. Once you’ve been a couple of times you’ll probably have a few friends who are into the same things you are and you’ll be invited to private gatherings, have numbers in your phone and have random buddies to meet up with whenever the opportunity arises.

I hope you do find the courage to overcome that first fear and attend a club. I don’t think we’ve seen a single example of a guy joining a club and saying it wasn’t for them. Every experience we’ve published from members of the community who’ve attended a club have become a regular member of their local scene and had a lot more fun because they took that leap.

I wish you luck, please come back and let us know how it goes if you do decide to take that leap, we would love to hear how much fun you had 🙂

READERS: If you’ve attended a jack off club please offer your experiences and thoughts in the comments below. Do you agree with my advice? Have I missed something? Did you have a different experience?

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