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My first shared bate with my brother-in-law

Submitted by Steve

My first bate with another guy was in 1989, I was a 22yo in a small town and it was my brother-in-law who got me jerking it.

My sis left him one night after an argument and came to stay with me and my girlfriend. I was chosen to go and talk to him. It wasn’t such a big deal, they lived on the other side of town so it was only a short drive.

That’s one of the most memorable moments for me. Seeing another cock ejaculating right in front of me for the first time has been imprinted on my mind ever since that night

I can’t remember what it was they’d been arguing about, probably money. I’d lent her some cash a few times to see them through and I knew they were struggling. We had a drink and a long talk about things and soon I realized it would probably be easier to sleep on the couch.

It was a long time ago so maybe I’m remembering it wrong but I think he put some porn on. Either it was a VHS he had or it was some adult network. Probably a video considering they were struggling financially. I don’t think anything needed to be said. I was sitting on his couch and he was in his chair beside me and after a few minutes of watching the porn we both had our dicks out. I’d never jacked off with a buddy before that but I think he probably had. Looking back now he seems like the kind of guy who would have. I was a pretty sensible guy but he was the kind of man who just didn’t give a shit about. You probably know the kind of guy he was, all flannel and oily jeans while I was a shirt and slacks kind of man, even then.



It was kinda strange. We’d been friends for a few years but never real close, but it was pretty easy. Maybe I’m just remembering it wrong but I don’t think it was awkward at all. We checked out our dicks and compared, he was proud that his cock was fatter than mine. He got some KY from the bathroom and soon we were just sitting there watching the screen, talking, our pants down at our ankles and the sounds of our wet cocks sliding in our hands. Maybe it was only 30 minutes, but it felt longer, I think we watched more than one movie. It might have been one of those tapes with two different films on it. We spent a lot of time just getting a good look at our cocks. I was intrigued by the way he stroked his cock. I’d always just grabbed my shaft and slid up and down but he had a repetitive motion of three strokes along his cock and two rubs of his tip. We kind of mimicked each other for a while, seeing what it was like to use the other method. I had to stop after a few strokes because rubbing my tip was nearly sending me over the edge.

It didn’t even cross my mind to jack each other off. That would come later.

Eventually I reached my limit (I didn’t know what edging was then I was just going with it) and I needed to cum. I snatched some tissues from the arm of the couch between us and leaned forward, aiming my cock head into the bunched up Kleenex. He did the same and we watched each other cum.

That’s one of the most memorable moments for me. Seeing another cock ejaculating right in front of me for the first time has been imprinted on my mind ever since that night. He shot off a lot of cum and I think I did too. I watched his dick fire off a couple of rounds completely missing his hand and he had to clean up his cum from the carpet. We sat back for a few minutes to catch our breath. Our cocks just lay there wet and plump while we carried on talking like nothing happened.

The smell in the room after it is another memorable thing for me. It was the first time I’d smelled that mix of lube, cum and sweat but every time since then it takes me right back to that night and some of the other bate sessions we had after it.



I probably only got three hours sleep before he was waking me up with bacon and eggs and telling me he had to get to work soon. I left there 20 minutes later and went home to enjoy my day off, I jacked off another two times thinking about seeing him cum. They got back together and lasted another five years before splitting, but me and him were good buddies by then and we were jacking off every couple weeks. I did eventually jack him off and he edged me too. We had a lot of great times in the 90’s.

Thanks for reading my experience. I never wrote it out before and parts of it are a bit hazy but that’s the gist of it all. He was the one who got me started with friendly bating and I’ve enjoyed plenty of it since. If you like I’ll send in some of the other experiences we had.

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I'm Brad, and I'm an avid masturbator. I'm the primary author here at BuddyBate, publishing the experiences of readers, adding fiction content submitted by visitors and sharing some of the best masturbation porn available.

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4 thoughts on “My first shared bate with my brother-in-law

  • April 8, 2019 at 11:15 am

    I wanked with my bro-in-law plenty of times in the lat 90’s. I was in my 30’s and he was in his 20’s. We bonded over internet porn because I was the only one who had dial-up at the time 🙂
    Had loads of great wanks together and his was the first cock other than my own i ever stroked. Happy memories!

  • April 10, 2019 at 2:26 pm

    never jacked off with a buddy before but really want to try it. wish i had a bro like this to stroke it with.

  • April 14, 2019 at 5:41 pm

    Thanks for sharing.When you mentioned the smell of cum, lube and sweat, it threw me over the edge and I shot a good load. I remember the smell of sweat and cum in my car when my buddy and I would wank off after the gym.
    Luv to hear your other stories.

  • April 18, 2019 at 12:37 am

    Man that was a great story. I was there with you! Stroking my nipples and squirming in my seat at my desk. I’m going to have to rub one out.
    Thank you for sharing your story.


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