Advice: Getting Over Cock Shyness

Submitted by Anonymous

Big bator here with a cock shyness problem that’s holding me back.

I’m 27 and mostly straight, had girlfriends but single at the moment. Always liked looking at cocks and love wanking it. Really into seeing guys just enjoying their penises together and having the kind of friendship where they can stroke and jizz without it being a big deal.

I have thought about what it would be like to frot and all that stuff, but I’m mostly just hoping to find a mate I can watch porn and wank with and then maybe if we feel like it we can try wanking each other off.

My problem is I’ve always been shy.

I don’t use urinals unless it’s really quiet and I know I can go quickly, or I’m already drunk and don’t care.

When I’m at the gym I get changed quickly.

I wasn’t ever shy with girlfriends but I am around other guys.

I think I have a nice dick. I’m about 6.5″. Uncut. Tight balls. Bit of a curve in my rod. I can cum some big loads too.

There’s no chance of me finding a wank mate unless I can get over this and be proud of my cock.

Any advice from Brad or other readers?

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Hi Anonymous!

I know you’re not alone and plenty of guys have the same cock shyness. It’s a very common thing.

As for what you can do about it, I think confronting your fears is the often the best way, but perhaps in stages.

I’m assuming you probably don’t have the same concerns about sharing your penis online? It might be a good way to boost your confidence, by sharing pics in like-minded and appropriate communities (like ours!)

This will likely result in feedback that could boost your self-esteem, if that’s what the problem might be, or an element of it.

Your fears could also be about physical proximity and in-person exposure, a fear of the unknown (which most fear is, we build up fantastical scenarios in our heads as a way to subconsciously sabotage ourselves). In which case, maybe you could try being naked more often in the locker room, or just giving yourself a little more time on each occasion?

When you drop your shorts, maybe take an extra minute to go through your bag. Maybe take a little more time drying, and intentionally drop the towel just to give yourself a little more excuse to be naked for a few more seconds.

Nothing will happen, other guys won’t gasp in shock and horror, and you’ll be a little more comfortable about things.

Being naked in private might also help. Spending time in your own personal space and imagining you’re in a locker room environment might help to develop more comfort in such a space.

Once you come to realize that other guys in the locker room either aren’t paying any attention at all, or aren’t going to have a reaction to you being naked, you’ll likely slowly become more comfortable with it.

I also think that maybe visiting a sauna/bathhouse could help. It’s a big leap, but perhaps that kind of “immersion therapy” is worth trying? The worst that could happen is that you don’t like it, but at least in such an environment you’d be around other guys who are happy to be naked and proud. Perhaps that’s what you really need?

Whatever you do I’m sure you’ll find a way to overcome your cock shyness.

Keep us posted!

Brad

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