Advice – Girlfriend Threw Out My Best Fleshlight

Submitted by Craigy

My girlfriend moved into my flat two months ago and I just found out she threw out my best fleshlight.

She went to her mum’s for a couple of days for a relative’s birthday and I thought I could spend a night watching porn and wanking out some loads. When I went to get my toy it was gone.

I texted her to ask. She knew I had it. I thought she was cool with it.

She told me “You don’t need it anymore now I’m there”.

I was fuming! I was okay with her putting pictures up and moving things around and she wants to redecorate my bedroom which I was fine with because it’s hers now too, but throwing out my things is a line crossed.

It really was my best fleshlight too. I’ve had a few over the years but I’ve got a thick cock and most of them are too tight for me. The one toy that fit my dick and felt so good she threw out!

I don’t even know where I can get another one. I’ve looked around and I can’t find another one like it. It was a thick and wide almost clear sleeve that had ticklers inside it.

I’ve had it for years and love using it. It always made me cum so much after edging with it.

She probably didn’t know how often I like to play with it but really that shouldn’t matter, it wasn’t hers to throw away.

What should I do? Try to get another one?

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Hi Craigy,

Sorry this happened to you. You are correct that she had absolutely no right to throw out anything that belongs to you.

I need to clear up something, I know a lot of guys call any kind of wanking sleeve a “fleshlight” but they’re not. Fleshlight is a brand name specifically for a style of canister toy made by that company, while everything else is a generic stroker or sleeve.

I’m assuming you’re referring to a sleeve rather than a Fleshlight branded toy.

Sorry, just my nitpicking brain wanting to make that clear 🙂

I’m wondering if there’s some jealously and control happening there. Perhaps she feels threatened by the idea that you would want or enjoy a toy?

Unfortunately, a lot of women are hypocrites when it comes to sex toys, they (rightly) demand the freedom to enjoy theirs while ridiculing men for the same.

You haven’t mentioned what you said in response to her, but I hope you made it clear that this is unacceptable. If you did the same to a female partner it would be considered controlling, abusive, unacceptable. You should demand the same respect.

Personally, I would buy another and make sure she knows that the only person who has the right to throw it out is you.

Alternatively, you could buy another and just hide it really well. A lot of men keep their toys in the shed or garage, just so they know their female partner isn’t likely to discover it lol

It can be tricky to find a toy that works for you, especially if you have a longer or thicker cock than average, but I know some online retailers do try to add as much info as possible so you can make an informed decision. If your cock won’t easily fit in a canister toy (like a can, fleshlight, Tenga etc) I would go with a silicone sleeve.

And, some of the cheapest ones are actually some of the best. I know the Sono No.23 Stroker Clear Male Masturbator is a popular one, and the Lovetoy Training Master Masturbator is a stretchy one that feels great even for thicker cocks when you use some good lube.

Thanks for your submission. I hope you find the right toy for you. Don’t let anyone else dictate how you should enjoy your own sexual experience.

Some of our readers might have a little more advice so scroll down for comments.

Brad

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