type something like "toghether jerkoff (city)" into the search engine. Reply to the ads expressing your willingness to meet. This is the most logical way.

In my extensive experience, ads out there in the wild are not the best way to go, because they're on generalized adult platforms rather than in the community.

It might seem biased for me to say it but it's true... our site is specifically about shared masturbation, so all the guys who advertise here seeking local buds are more interested in actually meeting.

For a lot of guys on swingers sites, or gay cruising apps, they're not necessarily that into it, or they're looking for more than just jerking. A lot of the time it's just a fantasy they're inching toward making a reality.

Guys usually have a good feeling about which of their friends might be cool with it, but that can also be a little hit and miss.

I would generally say the best way to find guys to wank with is to be engaged in the local community. Every area has one. At least if you're meeting guys in a community like this you know what they're there for, there's no second-guessing, and the chances of actually meeting up are far higher.

For me I met a few during my teen years and I’m lucky one of them is still an occasional bate buddy of mine. The other buddy I have I met through work and although we both moved to different companies we still sometimes meet up or have online sessions. 

I use to find them in chatrooms that are no longer in existence. I joined some telegram groups but they were too strict or weren't inclusive 

Posted in the Tips under Breaking the Ice my experience with adult bookstore/arcade places around me. A few have lounge areas with coaches and dudes with their cocks out. I'll look things over, get my dick out, approach a guy and ask if he wants to rub dicks, most often they're game, Sometimes they want to suck , which I'm OK with. I'll pass if I didn't like what I see. Might just jerk off and get into the porn for a while. Eventually someone I'm interested in might show up. Once a hot dude working at the place popped in and we went at it. He wanted a quickie so we jerked, sucked and finished frotting with cum flying all over us.

I would also like to know the answer to this .As a married man from south yorkshire in late 50s who would love to have a regular bate mate long term like a lot of guys on here

@mark The only buddy I had was a much older neighbour who was a nudist when at home. He was 70, I was in my 40’s. Both of us were married. We kind of grew into it when I use to visit him to borrow tools etc. We hung out in his man cave (garage) occasionally watching porn and chatting with a beer. He taught me a few things. Came to an end when I had to move. All my other experiences have been chance encounters mostly in public places but these days my desire for strangers has really waned but my desire for a wank buddy has grown. Really would love to foster a close relationship with no judgement, complete trust and no fear. 

I would suggest trying out the website, Doublelist.com
Its were I have found lots of guys in my area and age range of 50-75 years old!

 I have had great success with finding guys who enjoy the same stuff I do! 
paul 

I have found some great guys who enjoy what I enjoy! 
If you are really interested in exploring your sexuality, then, just do it!

Paul

You could check out the app Sniffies. I've linked with guys on there and found groups.