I’m jacking off with a buddy and want to jack each other, but is it cheating?
Submitted by TonyStarkNaked
Three months ago I found another dude to jack off with and we’ve been having some good times watching porn and bating. I was real nervous about it the first time but it’s been awesome. I met him at the grocery store and he was wearing a BuddyBate pin. I wasn’t wearing mine but I told him I had one too. I said I was inexperienced and just curious but he said that was cool and he wrote his number down.
I waited a few days before I got in touch but when I did he was real chilled about it felt right so we met for coffee. He said he’d jacked off with one dude before and he’d been thinking about trying it again. We have similar thoughts about things and just enjoy the freedom of it but he said he might be cool with jacking each other eventually.
We’ve had a few great bate sessions since then just watching porn and jacking. It’s real relaxing to be able to just enjoy it with another guy. I love watching his cock while he strokes it and seeing him come always makes me come.
It hasn’t been too long but I think I want to try jacking him. I don’t know if he would be down for that yet and we haven’t talked about it since that first meeting but I’ve been thinking about what it would feel like and I think I want to try it.
My problem is that I wonder if it’s cheating. My girlfriend doesn’t know we’re jacking off. She thinks we bonded over baseball. I didn’t think about it much before because it’s just two guys watching porn and jacking it and I don’t think that qualifies as cheating on someone, but I think it might be if we were jacking each other. I guess I’m just wondering what everyone else thinks about it. Do you think I’m cheating on her already? Is it only cheating if we jack each other? Do you think it’s not cheating even then if it’s only about friendship and masturbation?
I’ve changed a couple of things about this just in case the other guy reads it. I don’t want things to get awkward.
Hey Larry,
This is something that’s been asked before and different guys have different opinions about it. Some guys don’t see it as cheating because they have no romantic attachment to the guy they’re jacking it with and masturbation is something they do regularly anyway, it’s just something they’re now able to share with a friend who enjoys it as much as they do.
Other guys think masturbation in the company of another guy is okay but making physical contact is crossing that infidelity line.
Then there are guys who think even being naked with another guy is something they should tell their partner about.
Ultimately, it’s all about your own perspectives, what you think she would feel about it, and no one else can make this determination for you.
I would suggest that you think about her feelings and consider whether she would see it as cheating. Some women do, some women don’t. I know several bators who have a significant other and they’re a mix of situations. One of them is in a sexless marriage at 35 and he enjoys the pleasure and bonding of mutual masturbation with other guys, he doesn’t care whether his wife would like it or not. Another married friend in his 40’s is open about it all with his wife and she enjoys hearing about his experiences, she considers it as just guys being guys. Another friend and his wife are into the swinging scene and she likes to watch him and another one of his friends
Just remember that everyone deserves to be happy. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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