Lads keep standing me up when we plan to bate
Submitted by Leo in London
I’ve been in touch with a few guys on other sites before and I’ve arranged to meet up with a plenty of them but only two have worked out. Every other time we get to swapping cock pics and talking about wanking together but then when we plan something they make excuses and never show.
The two that worked were great and we still meet up for wanks now, but I’m interested in meeting other guys for some wanks too. They both have other mates they wank with and we have plans to get together for a circle jerk at some point.
Can you offer any advice about it? I’m a good looking lad, straight but not an arsehole, fit, 27, 7″ uncut dick, big cummer. I don’t think guys are seeing me and bolting like it’s a bad date, they just bail on me, leaving me hard and dripping and needing to take care of business alone 🙁
Hey Leo.
This is very familiar. I hear it a lot. Guys put ads out there when they’re hard and horny then when it comes to actually meeting up they chicken out. It’s pretty common and it just means they’re not ready to properly enjoy a good bate session with another guy just yet. They’ll probably get there eventually.
What you describe about the two you’ve met is usually how this goes. Without the BuddyBate buttons and stickers a lot of guys rely on meeting other baters through the guys they already bate with, because most of us have a good circle of cock strokers we can call on after we’ve been in “the scene” for a while.
We hope our little button project will get a lot more guys into the local communities and help them to meet each other, it’s a pretty good way to find a path into some groups and find existing circles of bators looking for new dicks to play with 🙂
I would recommend keeping at it. When you get the chance to meet those other guys you’ve heard about swap numbers with them, stay in touch, meet up for more sessions and then ultimately you’ll probably end up meeting other guys they bate with too, and on and on it goes.
I hope you consider getting some buttons and stickers too, we have a lot of bators in London showing them off so you never know when you might meet a random guy on the tube showing his button and looking for a wank mate.
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Hi Leo. I used to have the same problem years ago. I was on Craigslist looking for guys to wank with and every time I found someone near me they would cancel at the last minute or just not show up. I had a couple of good wanks with a couple of guys but nothing regular. What changed it for me was swapping numbers with a dude I met at the gym before we rubbed dicks (once you’ve both shot your loads you forget about swapping numbers!) then he texted me the next week and we met up again and he had a buddy with him for a circle jerk. Brad is right about getting into the scene. After a few months I had about ten numbers on my phone and I was getting emails and texts from guys who heard about me from another one of their mates. Now we’ve got the buttons and stickers I give them to guys I meet and tell them about the site too.
That’s a big problem across the internet I’ve discovered tons of guys who want pics ,swapping pics etc. but when it comes to actually meeting up for the get acquainted part it’s a no show. That’s why I don’t do pics, descriptions yes but no pic swapping.
I’ve always said my cock is my confidence – pretty sure it’s the same for most guys. When I’m hard and horny and in the heat of the moment I’m up for anything. Once I’ve blown my load, not really that interested in sex……let alone another dude. Best to make things happen when everyone is horny and before hey jerk one off by themselves