Is My Exhibitionist Roommate A Bator?

Submitted by Callahan

Hey guys. I only ever wanked with one mate years ago but always been into the idea of finding another mate I can share it with. Never wanked another dick or frotted but love the thought of it. Never had the balls to go looking for a bate mate but I think one has found me.

I moved in with a friend from work in April. We didn’t know each other very well but we had a lot of things in common and he had a spare room. I needed somewhere to stay temporarily and it was cheaper than where I was.

We’re both in our late 20s, both straight and single. We hang out sometimes but it’s mostly just going to the gym or the pub down the street. I’ve met a few of his mates and they’re all typical geezers. They’re all about football, pussy and beer. I’ve actually thought a few of them are the type to maybe just have a wank to porn with their mates if the chance was there.

So my roommate is either an exhibitionist or just really chilled out. As soon as I moved in I realized he’s not bashful about anything. He’s one of those guys who will stand around in the gym changing rooms with his cock out and have a full-on conversation with anyone. The first time I realized how relaxed he was was when he was washing his uniform for work and he was just wearing socks and a t-shirt and his dick and balls were swinging around. The next day one of his mates knocked on the door and I called him and he came out of his room naked.

A few times I came home and he was sitting on the sofa watching TV in his robe and his cock was just on display. He walks around in it just hanging open.

He’s got a really nice dick and great balls. It’s one of those dicks that always looks full and heavy, either that or he’s just always part horny. I haven’t seen him properly hard but even when he’s floppy he’s got about 6 inches of dick just hanging out.

So I think my questions are: 1. Is he a Buddy Bator and I just haven’t worked it out yet and 2. how do I find out if he’s down to at least wank off with a mate?

I was supposed to move out in September but he’s said I can stay as long as I need to and if we can move on to sharing wanks I definitely want to stay around a while and build that friendship.

Thanks for the site and any advice. Really want to find a bate mate and it would be great to shoot some loads with him.

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Hey Callahan,

Thanks for your submission.

In my own experience, some guys are just very relaxed about nudity. Some guys just don’t give a shit if another guy sees their cock and admires it. The good news is that these guys are usually at least down to watch porn and wank off with a buddy. It sounds like he might be just one of those guys who isn’t shy at all and if the opportunity to watch porn and wank one out with a mate was there he probably wouldn’t think twice before his dick was hard in his hand.

My advice is to reciprocate, enjoy the relaxed environment. Do what he does. Walk to the bathroom naked. Do your laundry with your dick swinging. Stand around in the locker room with your cock on show. I think you need to show him you’re similar in that regard and maybe then it will all just come naturally. If he knows you’re as relaxed about it as he is maybe he’ll already have plans to watch porn and enjoy a wank with you?

Or, if you have a shared TV (I’m guessing you do) you could arrange to be “caught” in the act and see how he responds. I’m guessing he would be relaxed about you watching porn on a shared TV and if he knew that was something else you have in common it might move things in that direction.

I do think it’s important to remember that more guys are open to just freely masturbating with friends than are into mutual hand jobs and frotting. He might be very relaxed with his dick and happy to show it off or even grease up and let a load fly with you on the couch, but that doesn’t mean he’s gonna want to try mashing your wet dicks together and making each other spurt. That’s the kind of thing you can probably work out once you’ve broken the ice and at least seen each other cum.

The other option is to somehow let him know about your own wank experiences with your friend before. If there’s an opportunity to work that into a conversation just drop it without any fanfare and see what happens. If he’s negatively surprised by the revaluation that you wanked with a friend then you’ll know it’s probably not an option with him. But, he might just be totally unfazed by it and even tell you about his own wank mate experiences. You’ll definitely know then that he’s relaxed about it.

Whatever happens I hope you’ll come back and let us know how it goes!

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