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How to find a wanking buddy

Submission from Bob

What advice can you give for meeting or approaching somebody to be a buddybate?

Hi Bob,

This is something we get asked a lot around these parts and we’ve been trying to find a way to make this more prominent on the blog. Maybe we need to add a link to it at the top?

You would be surprised how many guys are actually into wanking with other guys, and there are all types of reasons for it. For some it’s just not considered a big deal, others want to share masturbation because it brings them closer as friends, some have a specific fetish for masturbation or seeing another dick being enjoyed. Then, of course, there are plenty of bisexual and gay men who just enjoy rubbing it with other guys.

There are all kinds of ways to meet someone into it, or seeing if someone you already know is down for getting dicks out and stroking.

If you’ve already got a friend in mind, someone you think might be interested in stroking together, you could just ask him. Most guys probably wouldn’t be comfortable with taking such an obvious leap so you could just try to arrange a situation where the opportunity is there. For instance, a lot of guys here have got into wanking with an existing friend just by leaving some porn out when their friend is over for a beer one evening. Are there many guys who wouldn’t be wanting to get their cock out for a wank when some good porn is right there waiting to be enjoyed? You might need to get that started and show it’s perfectly fine to haul it out and have some fun, but most guys would likely be willing.

If there isn’t a guy you know who you think would be into it then you could always go looking on apps, forums and blogs. You could set up a disposable email account and just leave some comments here with your location, or check out Craigslist, or even download Grindr and just let guys know your limitations.

I hope that helps. There’s plenty more information around on the blog so just do a little reading around here and you should find some more helpful advice in other posts.

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2 thoughts on “How to find a wanking buddy

  • March 22, 2018 at 9:39 pm

    Great suggestions! Bob, it’s that easy. Don’t over-think this keep it simple. Guys love to wank…period! The rest is easy!

    As mentioned, leave some porn in view. Trust me, any guy seeing it will comment on it. Even if he’s shy, he’ll look at it or hold it longer. That’s you queue…

    (1) Say, “Yeah, that’s a good one…” If it’s a DVD, while you’re reaching for it from him, remove the disk, hand the box back to him to look at, and without asking, put it in the player, turn your head in his direction and say, “Check this out…” Without hesitating push Play.
    (2) Say, “That reminds me, I saw this a while ago, check it out…” Show it to him on your PC/Laptop/Tablet/Phone, etc. Have him watch the screen as you’re searching.
    (3) If he is shy, and says something like, “ahh, I dunno…” or “not now-maybe later”, or “maybe I can borrow it…”, that’s when you confidently say, “Sure, that’s fine! Look at this, I’ll show you the part/website not to miss.” As you push Play/Enter website say, “It’s been a while, hopefully I can find it straight away…” don’t wait for his comment, just do it. This will give you the opportunity to engage him in conversation while you “try” to find the part you want to show him. If he’s real shy, just keep “trying” to find it! Say, “This isn’t it, but it’s Hot” “Oh, here’s another one.” “Hmm, now where is that one I want to show you?”

    As soon as you both start watching, casually “readjust” frequently. When he does it, that’s your queue! You have 2 choices: (1) Draw attention to readjusting, or (2) if he’s shy, totally ignore it and casually loosen your belt/button/snap/fly, etc. and readjust again. At this point ANY comment or movement by him, is your queue! Casually, reach in and begin to play with your cock. After only a few minutes, whether he does or says anything or not, casually start to bring out your cock and slowly begin to stroke it. He’ll most likely follow your lead. If he seems hesitant, confidently say, “Like all guys I wank to porn, go ahead I always keep plenty of tissues handy right here.”

    It really is that easy!

    In fact, it’s so easy that there are only two things you need to do before he arrives. Visibly set out porn – Visibly set out tissues. They automatically put his mind in a receptive state without him even thinking about it.

    Don’t expect him to make any of the first moves. Remember, you’re the host – You lead. It’s OK if you feel nervous, but this is not about you; it’s all about getting him to feel at ease. You’re not being forceful or aggressive; you’re only being politely-assertive and making it easier for him to feel comfortable in your presence. The sooner he realizes this is just something you do all the time, the sooner he will follow your lead.

    By the end, before he leaves, he’ll probably say he had a good time. If not, Be the host, tell him you had a good time and tell him he’s welcome back anytime he wants. You could mention, “I’ll be doing it anyway, so you might as well come on over if you want.”

  • August 2, 2018 at 4:07 am

    I am gay and single hi there my best friend


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