How to find a wanking buddy
Submission from Bob
What advice can you give for meeting or approaching somebody to be a buddybate?
Hi Bob,
This is something we get asked a lot around these parts and we’ve been trying to find a way to make this more prominent on the blog. Maybe we need to add a link to it at the top?
You would be surprised how many guys are actually into wanking with other guys, and there are all types of reasons for it. For some it’s just not considered a big deal, others want to share masturbation because it brings them closer as friends, some have a specific fetish for masturbation or seeing another dick being enjoyed. Then, of course, there are plenty of bisexual and gay men who just enjoy rubbing it with other guys.
There are all kinds of ways to meet someone into it, or seeing if someone you already know is down for getting dicks out and stroking.
If you’ve already got a friend in mind, someone you think might be interested in stroking together, you could just ask him. Most guys probably wouldn’t be comfortable with taking such an obvious leap so you could just try to arrange a situation where the opportunity is there. For instance, a lot of guys here have got into wanking with an existing friend just by leaving some porn out when their friend is over for a beer one evening. Are there many guys who wouldn’t be wanting to get their cock out for a wank when some good porn is right there waiting to be enjoyed? You might need to get that started and show it’s perfectly fine to haul it out and have some fun, but most guys would likely be willing.
If there isn’t a guy you know who you think would be into it then you could always go looking on apps, forums and blogs. You could set up a disposable email account and just leave some comments here with your location, or check out Craigslist, or even download Grindr and just let guys know your limitations.
I hope that helps. There’s plenty more information around on the blog so just do a little reading around here and you should find some more helpful advice in other posts.
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Great suggestions! Bob, it’s that easy. Don’t over-think this keep it simple. Guys love to wank…period! The rest is easy!
As mentioned, leave some porn in view. Trust me, any guy seeing it will comment on it. Even if he’s shy, he’ll look at it or hold it longer. That’s you queue…
(1) Say, “Yeah, that’s a good one…” If it’s a DVD, while you’re reaching for it from him, remove the disk, hand the box back to him to look at, and without asking, put it in the player, turn your head in his direction and say, “Check this out…” Without hesitating push Play.
Or…
(2) Say, “That reminds me, I saw this a while ago, check it out…” Show it to him on your PC/Laptop/Tablet/Phone, etc. Have him watch the screen as you’re searching.
Or…
(3) If he is shy, and says something like, “ahh, I dunno…” or “not now-maybe later”, or “maybe I can borrow it…”, that’s when you confidently say, “Sure, that’s fine! Look at this, I’ll show you the part/website not to miss.” As you push Play/Enter website say, “It’s been a while, hopefully I can find it straight away…” don’t wait for his comment, just do it. This will give you the opportunity to engage him in conversation while you “try” to find the part you want to show him. If he’s real shy, just keep “trying” to find it! Say, “This isn’t it, but it’s Hot” “Oh, here’s another one.” “Hmm, now where is that one I want to show you?”
As soon as you both start watching, casually “readjust” frequently. When he does it, that’s your queue! You have 2 choices: (1) Draw attention to readjusting, or (2) if he’s shy, totally ignore it and casually loosen your belt/button/snap/fly, etc. and readjust again. At this point ANY comment or movement by him, is your queue! Casually, reach in and begin to play with your cock. After only a few minutes, whether he does or says anything or not, casually start to bring out your cock and slowly begin to stroke it. He’ll most likely follow your lead. If he seems hesitant, confidently say, “Like all guys I wank to porn, go ahead I always keep plenty of tissues handy right here.”
It really is that easy!
In fact, it’s so easy that there are only two things you need to do before he arrives. Visibly set out porn – Visibly set out tissues. They automatically put his mind in a receptive state without him even thinking about it.
Don’t expect him to make any of the first moves. Remember, you’re the host – You lead. It’s OK if you feel nervous, but this is not about you; it’s all about getting him to feel at ease. You’re not being forceful or aggressive; you’re only being politely-assertive and making it easier for him to feel comfortable in your presence. The sooner he realizes this is just something you do all the time, the sooner he will follow your lead.
By the end, before he leaves, he’ll probably say he had a good time. If not, Be the host, tell him you had a good time and tell him he’s welcome back anytime he wants. You could mention, “I’ll be doing it anyway, so you might as well come on over if you want.”
I would love to have a great wanking buddy and wanking all the time with the buddy.
I am gay and single hi there my best friend
I’m in the north west & can accommodate. I’m a Mature guy with curious only interest in a regular wank buddy. Keen to see who’s up for a helping hand & a mutual sesh ??
Hi, get in touch
I’ve used various methods. I’ve only failed 3 times.
Porn is the obvious one. If you’ve got some magazines or good movies and you have a buddy over that’s usually all it takes, and maybe a couple beers too.
I’ve been open with a few guys about my enjoyment and just asked them if they’re into it. 2 guys were cool with it and 2 just politely said no.
The other guy said no to jacking off watching porn but he watched me jack off while he groped his dick in his shorts. Never saw his cock and we never did anything again after that 🙁
I might just be a good judge of character and be able to tell when a guy is more open to this but I think a lot of guys are just horny all the time and if the atmosphere is relaxed enough they’ll do it.
Not all of them have been interested in frottage or hand jobs but I think maybe 60% of them have after a couple of sessions together.
I try to find a more recent post… It really wouldn’t have anything to do with any one subject..? lol, I have a friend in North Jersey who I always thought he was curious or interested in me, or we was most likely interested in each other..
Frankie likes to compare…Eddie was about two~ years older than me… He is about the same height as me.. To this day he might even be just a little bit heavier than me.. With that he could almost be a twin of mine.. ? He may also be a little bit physically stronger than me…
One of the things I always was curious to do with another man of similar Caliber, Attributes, etc. etc. is to check each other out.,, Have a mutual wank contest with another man.., Mastubation technique.. See who would have the better endurance/staying power, and count cum shots..I always wanted to do that.. I always felt that Eddie and I would be close in size..l I believe a laptop computer, and available wifi, and possibly a 12 pack of beer would move things along… I always liked Eddy….
When I’m having someone Mastubate me, and I’m approaching orgasam… No matter who I have to be kissing someone as I’m ejaculating…
I wish I had done this with another man when I was still in my 20’s..
Got well horny reading this and want a guy to wank me off see how it feels
Im looking for a wank buddy to cum over my wifes pics/Cam with me. Im Bi Curious and love watching other cocks cum over my wife and myself
Sounds great that I’d love to chat x
Im 45, and married but looking for a duscreet wank buddy in Lincolnshire , would be awesome to wank off another guy, and get wanked off by him as well. Would love to edge him and see how long he can last without cumming. Looking at a guy when he is cumming, and listening to the sounds he makes always gets me hard and dripping pre-cum!
Yes. That makes two of us. Would love a wank mate to sit and chat with and help each other when needs must. Live in Lincolnshire myself but not much chance of it happening.
Mick
Email me and maybe we can arrange something soon! 😉
Live in Grimsby. Looking for a wank buddy. I am slim and smooth.
59 years old.
Michael,
I live near O’Hara airport and I too am looking for a like minded male in my age group, 50-68 years old, who is looking for a stroking buddy. Send me a note if you are interested and serious about getting together for some mutual pleasures together. I have very limited experience with mutual pleasure with another male.
Paul
Home dad,
I too am looking for a stroking buddy in my age group 50-68 years old and area. I too am a straight married male, age 67 who would love to have a mutual experience with another male. I would love to watch another male stroking himself, while he is watching me stroking myself and us both exploring stroking each other’s cocks. I live near O’Hara airport. I too would love to have the feeling of another long, hard shaft in my hands, feeling his cock jumping and pulsating in my hands as I edge and tease him to an amazing Explosion.
Send me a note if you are interested and serious about getting together for some mutual pleasures!
Paul
Bi guy, tall. slim, Sheffield, looking for wank buddy. Kik – Fitladsheff
Hi, I am a married gay man age 59. Living just outside Lincoln, near Saxilby. I am looking for a stroke buddy to engage in mutual masturbation and jerk and be jerked off. I like to taste cum from different cocks too.
Anyone in bl0 postcode wanting buddy give me a shout
Hello anyone
Seeking jerk off buddy in 23150 area