Are there any bate clubs near me?

This is one of those questions we get asked quite a lot, and the short answer is that there probably is.

It really depends where you live, but almost all communities out there have at least one group of jerkers getting together for some friendly dick rubbing.

In major cities there are probably a dozen or so formal groups getting together regularly, and likely a couple of professionally organized club events for masturbators too.

Wherever you are, the reason you perhaps don’t know about these groups is because a lot of them either don’t consider themselves an organized collective of bators (they’re just friends who get their dicks out and watch porn) or they know that if they spread the word they’ll be swamped by guys wanting to join in.

We know of several smaller groups of between 5 and 15 who get together once a month for circle jerks and they never advertise their events or put the word out there, because the last time they did they had 60 guys get in touch or just show up. That sounds great, but when you’re hosting a party at your apartment and that many guys arrive, it starts to cause problems. A lot of them already have new members arriving as guests of existing bators, so they’re growing organically without risking putting the word out.

Most groups like that meet in a private dwelling, a hotel room, or a discreet place on the edge of town like a derelict building or parkland, and if you have too many guys finding out about it you’ll soon discover yourself hosting an illegal party in public or have the cops showing up to ask why there are 60 cars parked outside your place.

Believe me, there is no shortage of men looking for groups to join, we know that thanks to the feedback we get from the groups listed on our Wank Clubs page. Several of them have been in touch to tell us that they’ve gained another 20 members specifically because of BuddyBate. We’ve heard from other readers who met a new bate buddy here and soon found themselves hosting four guys at each party. Another reader told us he couldn’t host (a married guy in Loncoln, Nebraska) so he started meeting a dude at Pioneers Park, who then brought another buddy with him… they now have five guys meeting for circle jerks outdoors and they’re having to look for new discreet places to jack off together.

So, of there isn’t an organized public club near you, and you can’t find out about the other bate clubs that don’t advertise, how do you get into one?

The truth is, wearing a BuddyBate button or putting a sticker on your car can help. Yes, we want to deliver as many to guys out there as possible, but they really are working and guys are already meeting each other thanks to them, so of course we’re going to promote that at every opportunity 🙂

Once you’ve found a couple of local guys to bate with you’ll likely find yourself being invited to an existing group one of them is a member of.

The other option is to start a group yourself. You don’t need to be able to host 20 guys, you just need to be able to get a small gathering of maybe 5 or 6 together. That’s how you start a group, and that’s usually how these clubs come into being – one guy meets another guy to stroke with, he eventually finds another and brings him to an edging session, then that guy finds a buddy to bring with him too… before you know it you’ve got a good group going and you’re keeping it quiet so you don’t get swamped by 60 other guys wanting to join in 🙂

Honestly, once you start the ball rolling on this you can quickly find yourself in a regular group just through word-of-mouth alone.

How do you find those guys to start out with? That’s actually pretty easy. Look at any online community where horny guys communicate and you’ll find several willing to meet you for a friendly bate. Just on a site like PornHub you can search the community by town or city and soon have a list of guys to message and arrange a meeting with. If you’re particularly daring, you could just suggest to all of them that you want to start a small group and you might have them all meeting at the same time.

Whatever path you take, be safe and be healthy. And remember to come back and let us know how it all goes!