Why it’s your fault there’s no local jack off club in your city, and how to fix it

First I need to clarify that there is at least one local jack off club in your city. You might not know it’s there, but it is. For this post we’re talking about the big, organized, advertised groups that are open to new members. We’re not discussing the five buddies who get together in a basement once a month to watch porn and shoot some loads, or the college guys who meet up in a dorm room to bust a nut freely with their bros. There are plenty of these unadvertised, private and random groups of buddies in your city.

If you want to find those random bators we have the BuddyBate button project to assist. You’re welcome!

No, here we’re talking about why you don’t have a proper, regular, large gathering of men at a local bar or adult club all getting together once a month to grease up those dongs and have a great time with other bators.

London has one of the most successful jack off clubs in the world, perhaps the most successful. 100 men meet at this sold out event every week to socialize and enjoy their strokes together. It used to be once a month just two years ago, now demand is so high they’re hosting a gathering every Monday.

It’s important to remember that even though this club is so successful, it also doesn’t encompass the entirety of the London bator scene. While tickets for this weekly event sell out, there are smaller gatherings taking place around the city all the time, acting as a kind of overflow for those who might not be able to get a ticket.

In truth, the London Jack Off Club could probably hold an event twice a week and there would still be bator parties and circle jerks being held across the city. This is inevitable when you have so many men in one location and a limit on the capacity of events like the LJOC.

So, why don’t you have something similar in your big city or town?

Let’s talk about the numbers.

I know it sounds about as exciting as an English teacher delivering an assignment, in Latin, while watching a freshly painted wall dry. A little math can help inform.

We use a very sophisticated process to establish how many potential bator buddies there are in any town or city. When I say sophisticated I actually mean it’s a pretty basic formula that even my numerically challenged brain can manage. It’s basically 10% of all 18+ males in any location.

Why 10%? I hear you ask.

This is a very conservative estimate but we want to be realistic and not overstate. We don’t want to get your hopes up unnecessarily so we low-ball the plausible figure just a touch. If you live in a town with only 50 men over the age of 18, congratulations, four of your fellow citizens are probably cool with sharing their bate with you. That doesn’t seem unrealistic, does it? One in ten feels like a very reasonable estimate.

If you got ten of the men you know into a room you can probably imagine that at least one of them would be down to watch porn and jack off with you, right?

The base line is that these men are at least interested in a friendship where masturbating in each other’s company isn’t a big deal, it doesn’t necessarily mean 10% of all +18 men in your city relish the idea of swapping dicks, joining in with a massive party, or participating in a circle jerk.

Geography and cultural norms also matter.

Let’s be honest about this… it’s much easier to jack off with a man from New York than it is with a guy from Elgin, Nebraska. That’s not just a numbers thing, it’s a cultural thing.

While we could imagine a few men in Elgin, NE (estimated number of potential local J/O buddies is 27), would be having a few beers, enjoying porn and stroking out some loads together after an afternoon fixing a tractor (sorry for the stereotypes), we can’t imagine them attending a club event with eager bators all stroking their meat in a communal way, even if there was a club in the back of their one bar in town.

You’re probably not going to find a jack off club in Elgin, Nebraska, unless you’re doing it very discreetly with BuddyBate pins and stickers etc. No guy in that community is on Twitter or NewTumbl promoting a circle jerk meet up behind the single level public library, but they might invite you to their basement porn night if one of them saw you wearing a BuddyBate pin on your trucker cap.

There is the potential for a group of guys to bate together in a town like that – because bators exist everywhere – but finding them is going to be harder than it would be in a major city where thousands of men are more open to the idea.

Los Angeles, CA, has a potential J/O buddy audience of more than 148,000 18+ men. That’s 10% of their adult male population, again a conservative estimate but more than enough to sustain a weekly bate club. Even if you were to reduce this down to just 1% of all the adult men in LA you’d still have a bator club of almost 1,500.

The city of Los Angeles should be able to sustain several jack off clubs, but we only know of one formal club in operation and it’s still relatively new, although I believe it’s growing quickly.

Houston, Texas, has a potential bator population of 86,000 18+ men. Even if you go so far as to say only 1% of men in the city would be interested in such a club, that’s still 866 bators you could bring into a space for such a regular gathering. Somehow, there is still no Houston Jack Off Club that we’re aware of. Obviously there are groups of guys meeting up in smaller groups, buddies kicking back with a beer and some porn, dicks in their hands and loads ready to pump, but there’s apparently no formal group which men can seek out and join.

That brings us to why it’s your fault.

Okay, it’s not technically your fault and I admit it just makes for an interesting headline. So sue me.

The reality is that many cities and towns have an adequate audience for a regular club, but there isn’t the motivation, it’s hard to find the space or perhaps the know-how to get it started is lacking. It’s a daunting task, no doubt. Most men probably don’t want to invite ten guys into their home for a jack off party. Considering that as many as 50% of those who attend these gatherings identify as straight and are often married or in relationships, the number of guys wiling to plan such a thing gets even smaller.

You can’t publicly promote an outdoor event without breaking several laws and risking consequences.

It’s not so easy to book a room at a local hotel and invite twenty guys to come and play.

A lot of men wouldn’t know where to start when it comes to building a club.

Even when you know that Houston definitely has 800+ men who would love to participate in such a club, you’d need someone to plan it, and not many men want to take that on.

It takes vision, planning, time and perhaps even a little money.

We’ve written a guide to help you start a local jack off club. Click here to check it out.

In the meantime, consider whether you’re the one to start such a club.

If you have experience of jacking off with other guys you’re best positioned to get things rolling in your town or city. You don’t have to be open and loud about it, you just need to start getting in touch with other bators.

One of the biggest problems I see in the bator community is that guys don’t stay in touch.

If you meet up with a new guy to rub dicks, think about things beyond your immediate gratification with each other. Swap phone numbers. Trade email addresses. Follow each other on social media. This isn’t the French Resistance; you can be a little more easygoing in your friendships with other bators.

When you have three other bators in your phone, hit them up for a circle jerk.

This is how most local jack off clubs organically start. Like-minded men form their own community and before long the two friends you meet with a couple times a month have another two friends each that they want to bring. In a few months you have a group of 50.

Word of mouth is strong in the bator community, but only among those who are willing to engage instead of just enjoy a quick frotting with a guy in the woods before heading off never to meet again.

Stay in touch with your bator brethren.

Building a community.

Starting a local jack off club requires a community of men eager to participate and the willingness to get involved. There are probably plenty in your town/city, but finding them is the challenge.

You’re already here, so why not check out the Personals section for your area and start communicating with them about this?

Tube sites and forums also often have search options to find local men or even communities of bators already there looking for guys to meet with. Create an account on the relevant adult sites and start sending messages to those who seem interested.

Most bator clubs start with word of mouth, bators staying in touch, introducing new guys to their friends, pooling resources etc.

You never know, one of those guys might manage a hotel and be able to sort the room out for you, or one of them might have the perfect property to host such an event.

Ultimately, a lot of men complain that there isn’t a club in their town/city, but if they invested just a little of their time in helping to build such a community they’d probably have a successful one operating in a couple months.

Don’t forget to check out our guide to starting a jack off club, and don’t forget to come back here and let us know when you have. We’d love to promote it.

Are you interested in starting a bate club in your area? Leave a comment below.