I’m embarrassed to get my small cock out in front of my mate

Submitted by Dean in the Midlands

I’m embarrassed about my small cock and potentially getting it out in front of my mate for a wank.

I’ve known my best mate for ten years and he’s always been open about things like wanking. I stay at his place a lot when I’m visiting and he’s not shy about showing off his cock and walking around naked. I know he’s into watching porn and wanking and I think he wants to do that (he’s hinted about it loads of times) but I just can’t bring myself to do it.

I really want to, I know it would be fun but I’m too embarrassed about my small cock.

When I was younger I used to compare myself to my mates and using the showers after PE was a nightmare for me. I used to get picked on all the time. Although it got me into working out and being able to defend myself it fucked me up a bit when it comes to my cock.

My mate has seen it a few times over the years and never commented negatively, he’s not that kind of person, but I still worry about what would happen if I got my cock out for a wank with him.

He has a pretty big cock and mine in comparison is pathetic.

I have almost 5 inches when I’m hard. I get really hard too and I cum a lot.

I thought about getting a pump or a stretcher or something but I know I would probably give up on it after a week of seeing no change.

Just thought I would share. I might be alone and other guys might not have this problem. It’s just a shame, I think it would be great to have that friendship with him where we can just watch porn and wank but I think I’m just too fucked up.

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Editors response:

First of all, thanks for writing.

Second, you’re completely normal and you have nothing at all to be embarrassed about.

There’s something you need to know… all the cocks you see out there on the Internet, in porn etc, are larger than average. The average erect cock length is about 5.5 inches. Most porn companies pick out more endowed guys to appear in their videos and that has given a lot of guys a false impression of how big or small they are in comparison.

If you don’t use the gym showers or you don’t use urinals then it’s easy to come to the conclusion that you’re not normal. The truth is this is self-perpetuating. You probably hide your cock away from these experiences and as a result you never get to see the variety of dicks out there, you have developed a warped impression of how big other guys are based only on the “idealized” image presented in porn.

Funnily enough, we had another reader here a while back writing to complain that his cock was too big! So, the grass is not always greener.

I need to speak from experience here and say that while I have a larger than average cock, one of my best mates has a 5 inch cock too, and he’s a great wank buddy. His cock is fucking awesome! Much like you, he gets so hard and throbbing it arches up and twitches, leaking precum the whole time, and when he cums he squirts so hard and so much it makes me unload instantly seeing him shooting off.

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I love his cock, it’s beautiful, it feels so fucking hot in my hand, I love getting his cock soaked in lube and edging him while he edges me.

Guys really don’t give a fuck about size when it comes to two mates wanking off together and you really should consider that. Clearly he’s seen your cock and I bet that didn’t stop him from showing off and trying yo encourage you into some shared wanks, right?

It sounds as though he’s a good mate and you should trust him to be the mate he’s always been in this scenario too. If you want to get your cock out with him and have a wank then just do it.

I know it’s hard to take advice like this from someone not in your position and without your experience, but if you were my mate I wouldn’t give a fuck whether your cock was 5 inches or 15. This is about enjoying that experience together, being comfortable around each other, sharing that simple pleasure together and just enjoying a closer friendship than others have.

Here’s a suggestion, start with easier things and commit to using the showers at the gym or getting your cock out at the urinals once in a while, see what other guys are made of and you’ll probably realize that you’re just a normal bloke with a normal dick.

I hope that helps, and I hope you’ll stick around and maybe share again if/when things happen.