So you want to go to a bate club event? Here’s what to expect

All over the world, in almost every major city or town, men regularly get together to enjoy masturbation sessions. While the majority of guys visiting our site might be currently enjoying one-on-one stroke sessions with a friend or hooking up with individuals for private encounters, there are many who go on to enjoy group events, and some who will create long-running clubs for others to join.

Different cultures handle this in different ways. In the West, we’re not too bothered about what consenting adults get up to with each other. In other countries things might be different, the scene might be smaller or more underground, but in the UK, Europe and North America there’s a plethora of small groups and big collectives who get together once a week or once a year to share their bate.

Some of the best events around the world give you access to interesting settings that you might otherwise not have access to, beyond decent hotels where staff might not fully understand what their new guests are getting up to. There have been masturbation club events in old gyms, disused sporting venues, derelict industrial spaces, large nightclubs, woodland retreats, camping grounds and even rural farms and ranches.

The evolution of “Wank Clubs” is really quite simple. Some of the guys meeting up with a buddy this weekend will eventually invite another buddy to make it a threesome session, then another might invite a guy they bate with occasionally too. Before you know it a club is born and the membership swells. While some jerk off clubs spring fully-formed from the mind of a good marketer who loves to stroke, the majority of masturbation clubs develop organically with founding members expanding out and inviting new guys to their private fun, ultimately leading to the need for a larger space, greater costs involved in renting that space and the staff needed to manage eventual mailing lists and memberships.

Most male masturbation clubs never actually become self-identified organizations of any kind, they’re just a group of friends who get together to shoot some loads.

There are three types of club:

These are the clubs where membership is expected, dues are paid, cards might be issued and information about the event strictly controlled so that only those invited know when and where it’s happening. You’ll usually find out months in advance of an event and be expected to book as you would with a conference or other ticketed event. While these events are still fun, and they can be some of the biggest events you could attend, they can lack interest for those who prefer spontaneity and they can feel a little more “corporate” than organic events with long-term friends. Most of these events are held at friendly hotels, clubs or bars, and these businesses expect you to be paying for more than just a ticket when you attend. That’s not a bad thing, of course, but the experience can seem more business-minded than organic and horny. On the plus side, you’re almost guaranteed a clean and safe venue with a large group of horny men with hard dicks, but you’ll also possibly be paying for access, paying for drinks, be a target of marketing by companies, and have to conform to strict rules which you might not be limited to at smaller and more personal club events.

Some of the best events around the world give you access to interesting settings that you might otherwise not have access to, beyond decent hotels where staff might not fully understand what their new guests are getting up to. There have been masturbation club events in old gyms, disused sporting venues, derelict industrial spaces, large nightclubs, woodland retreats, camping grounds and even rural farms and ranches.

Most masturbation groups are in this category. These are the fun and friendly groups that are really more like regular parties. You hear about them through a bate buddy or a horny friend, and you go along to an address one weekend and find fifty cars lining the street, music playing in a home somewhere, and you walk in to find porn on every TV and naked guys walking around with their cocks stiff and a drink in their hand. It really is more like a party than any kind of formal event, but with that you get the trappings of any other party. There’s often that one guy who drinks too much and passes out on the floor, there’s a couple of guys who are there for more than just a good bate session and you have to repeatedly make it clear to them that you’re not interested in being blown or fucking them, and you have the same social awkwardness if you don’t know anyone there. It’s nearly impossible to break into the private party scene unless you or an existing bate buddy has the balls to just dive right in when you hear about an event.

One positive aspect is that once you attend the first party you’ll likely find a few new bate buddies who know about the next ten parties happening in your city. A lot of the regular attendees to these private events go to other events or host their own, so once you’ve met a few guys at one of these private parties you can find yourself with a packed schedule of bate action for months to come.

Rare but horny, these are the events that happen when you don’t expect it. You might get an email or a text letting you know that a couple of guys are gonna be in an old abandoned warehouse on Saturday at 1am or going into the woods after the club, and while you expect to just find a bate buddy and his mate wanking one out together you walk into a crowd of ten or more guys all stroking cock. These events happen without warning and you need to be on the right local list to know anything about it, but that doesn’t mean it always stays in the list. All it takes is one member of the message group to send out an alert to their much larger group of masturbators and a horny stampede of guys could show up with dripping dicks and loads in their balls ready to join the party. The good thing about this is that you never know when an opportunity will arise. It’s exciting, unpredictable, and you have the opportunity to meet plenty of new guys who you might never expect to see at an event like this.

There are some down sides to it though, little thought is put into the location or the planning. Guys announce these wank sessions with their dick dripping and they don’t consider the legalities of it, or the risks. You could end up crammed into a men’s room at 2am and unable to reach any cock other than your own. You could end up in the woods with 10 other guys within cum shot distance of a homeless encampment. You might find yourself in an alley under the window of the local police station because the original wanker didn’t know the location at all.

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It’s a diverse scene with varied rules

Just as there are various forms of gathering, there are also various rules about attendance, membership, permissible acts and the kinds of guys you’ll find in any male masturbation club. While most erotic content out there in the world (and on our website) depicts horny young men sharing their dicks, the scene itself is much more diverse.

Some events hire professionals, like models and strippers for example, to get the party started. Others are mainly more mature guys with decades of experience. Some male masturbation clubs are fledgling and started by college guys with their friends. You never really know what you’re going to find when you walk into a new scene.

While the majority of groups and clubs with a history have rules about what guys will be doing with each other (such as no sucking, no anal, no use of poppers etc) some are far more open to experimentation and expect each member to understand their own limits. This can be great, after all you could just walk away from a situation if a couple of guys are getting too into something you’re not particularly interested in, but that’s assuming you have another room to go to.

Porn styles also change depending on the group or event. Some events have a predominantly straight membership and their entertainment will likely reflect that, while others might be predominantly gay or bisexual. Of course, some events might not offer porn at all.

Ultimately, there are a few simple rules you can follow to make your experience as fun and positive as possible:

• Be open-minded. Not everyone in every group is going to be your “type” and not everyone there is going to think exactly the way you do about what to enjoy. Some groups are more diverse than others. Some members might be regular suck buddies with a friend at these events. There might be a couple of transsexual members. You might not like the porn playing. You might have to endure the smell of poppers. Go into each event and situation with an open mind and deal with what comes at you in a positive way. People choose to react negatively to things that are out of their control or momentarily impactful, rather than simply ignoring it and moving on. You can leave at any time. Remember that not every masturbation event is going to be like the last one you attended.

• Be respectful. Just as you would anywhere else, be respectful of the people around you and the environment you’re in. If you’re in someone’s home, treat it that way and be a good guest. Don’t shoot your load all over the couch and just assume they’re okay with that. If someone says they’re done, leave their dick alone. If someone politely brushes your hand away, respect their space and don’t cause a scene. If the organizers have rules, obey them. Have a good wash before you attend. Wear clean boxer shorts. Don’t turn up after a ten hour shift under a car, covered in grease and break fluid, and expect every guy there to want to jerk you off.

• Plan ahead. Just as you would when traveling to a concert in a town you’ve never visited, work out where you’re going, how you’re getting there, how you’re gonna get back etc. If you’re attending an event on your own, do your research and confirm it’s an established event. If it’s not, tell someone where you’re going. You don’t need to give them all the details, just let a friend know the location.

• Don’t panic. I know it’s easy to say, but it’s still good advice. Many of you are probably reading this having never been to a bate club event before and you probably have the same fears and concerns everyone else had on their first visit. Yeah, you might go soft, or you might be ready to cum within ten seconds, deal with it. We’re all men, we all have cocks, we all know that sometimes a switch is flipped and for the next ten minutes you’re either unable to get hard or you’re desperately trying to stop your cum load exploding all over the place. Go with it, guys know the deal, it’s nothing to be stressed about. I can almost guarantee that within minutes of accepting it and going with it you’ll have moved past it. Many guys at these events cum more than once. Some guys spend hours edging with the other guests and leave without cumming. A few guys here or there will be rock hard straight away, shoot a load within ten minutes, then spend another two hours rubbing a semi or making other lads cum. We’re all different, we’re all unique, embrace it and live in the moment.

Starting your own bate club

While there are potentially many bate clubs in your town or city, you will likely never know about most of them because they’re still hard to break into. Most are informal, fraternities, on sports teams, in basements, back rooms or out in the woods. Some meet up weekly, others monthly, some only once a year when all the members pack up for a weekend “fishing trip” in the country. The Internet certainly helps guys to find them, but there are hundreds more with small groups of guys that you’ll never know about unless you’re a part of that circle.

Starting your own bate club, with your own rules and your own expectations, can be very rewarding. All you need is a few members. You can grow it to become a larger scene over time, or limit it to your immediate friends and bate buddies. You can ask your buddies to invite others, or keep it closed and manageable. You can hold it at home, rent a hotel room or find an adult venue to partner with if you need a bigger space.

I know from experience that once you start a club and get a few members in the group, it can quickly grow, especially if you make it clear that members have the freedom to invite others. Think of it this way; if you have one bate buddy chances are good he knows another that you might never have met. That fella probably knows another. Eventually, once you provide the venue and word spreads, you could have a group of 50 or more guys in your town or city eager to attend the next gathering.

Setting up a free space on the Internet is relatively easy these days. Anyone can start a Twitter or Tumblr account and inform sites like ours about a new group or planned club. Create a hub of information and let us know, we’ll add it to our Wank Clubs page.

Happy Batin’