A Colleague Joined The Bate Club, Awkward Or Not?

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Submitted by FullLoad

Before January I only ever jacked it with one buddy a couple times years ago but I really wanted to experience a group and maybe try mutual and circle jerks. I found one group online and got in touch. In January I went to my first bate club and it was awesome. We had a great time stroking dicks for 2 hours. All the guys there were great and we were all just focused on enjoying our bate and sharing the experience. I knew it would be fun but after the first ten minutes of nerves it was awesome. For the first time in years I shot off 2 loads in the last half hour.

We met up again 2 times in February and another new guy joined. We had more great times just stroking ourselves and each other.

In March we met up again 2 times, another new guy joined for the first one, but the second time I got the surprise of my life when a guy I work with arrived. He’s in his 30s and I’m in my 40s. We’ve never really worked closely together but we were always on good terms and just kinda said hi and stuff at work.

I panicked. I didn’t know what to do. At our group when someone new arrives it’s by invitation so the guy who invited him has to introduce them to everyone else. It’s usually very relaxed and everyone tries to make it as comfortable as possible.

We shook hands and said we knew each other already but didn’t say anything else to anyone. Then when things started up me and him went outside and talked.

We’re both married, we both have lives outside of the club and we were both on the same page about it not being a big deal. He said we should just enjoy this as a thing outside of work and just keep it to ourselves.

Things were great after that. He’s got a great cock and we spent some time jerking each other and joining in with the other guys. It was like any other bator meeting. Once we’d given each other some strokes everything was a lot easier. We both finished with some big loads.

I saw him at work 2 days later and it was awkward again. We talked some more about work and he asked me if I was back at the club for the next meeting.

We’ve been to 2 more meetings since then and it’s been great. We talked more at work just about work stuff and it’s been okay.

I guess I’m just still worried that something might go wrong. I don’t think he wants his wife to know about his bator life and he knows I want to keep it all separate and quiet. Maybe I’m just worried about nothing. I just never expected anyone I know to be there, especially not him. Of all the guys I know at work he’s the last guy I would have imagined getting his dick out and jacking it with other guys. lol

Should I give up the club? I don’t want to, it’s the most fun I’ve had in years. I don’t think it would be easy to find another bator group.

I guess I’m just worried about the ways this could all go. Seems a bit risky.

Thanks for your submission.

I remember reading about a similar situation a few years ago. In that instance the man was a manager and the guy he met at the club was an employee directly under his leadership, so the power dynamics there were distinctly more problematic from a professionalism point of view.

In your case I don’t think you have much to worry about. If you’re both employees and at a similar level, without those tricky power dynamics to consider and navigate, you can probably continue without too much concern.

When it comes to trust, it seems you’re also both in a similar situation with regard to the need for discretion.

Neither of you could use this against the other without revealing your own involvement in this club, and I get the impression that neither of you would want to risk losing this community of like-minded guys.

I would suggest that maybe you could come to a sharing agreement whereby you both attend at different events, but it seems you’ve been having fun stroking together already and there hasn’t been any issue.

Ultimately, everything comes with an element of risk, it’s really down to what risk levels you’re comfortable with. I think it’s unlikely this will cause problems for either of you because you’re both motivated in the same direction. You both want to enjoy the club, you both want to keep this discreet, and you both have motivation to do so.

I think you should continue to enjoy it. A lot of guys jack off with their work friends. We’ve had so many posts from guys who jacked it with a buddy at work in the restroom or on a work related trip, and now they’re good buddies bating all the time. I don’t think it’s really much different to you bating with a neighbor or long-term friend.

Enjoy it, and please let us know how it goes. You haven’t mentioned if it’s a formal club looking for members or where you are but if you want me to add your group to the site so other local guys can find it just let me know.

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6 thoughts on “A Colleague Joined The Bate Club, Awkward Or Not?

  • May 9, 2022 at 11:21 am

    I wank with a work mate and it’s fun! I don’t think there’s anything to worry about if you’re on the same page about keeping it on the down low. Just have fun and enjoy it.

  • May 11, 2022 at 6:08 pm

    Well, might as well continue at this point. You’ve already been JO together several times, even if you stop now, if still happened and could be brought up, so just continue.

  • May 13, 2022 at 11:33 pm

    He knows you do it and you like it , you know he does it and likes it. I think you should continue and just enjoy the pleasure together.

  • June 1, 2022 at 5:06 am

    I think that if you are comfortable enough with each other, go for it. In Chicago there isn’t a bare club to check out, just a guy bath house with a steam room!

  • June 5, 2022 at 9:31 am

    Stick with it mate, you both enjoy it, so why give up. Your both in the same situation, so this group of yours is an ideal ways to let off steam, and have a good time with like minded guys.

  • June 14, 2022 at 12:53 am

    ALWAYS hang out with someone that has more to lose than you. Guaranteed discretion.


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