Going to my first bate party and I’m real nervous

Submitted by Zeke in Dallas

I met another bator with a button at the Grapevine bar a couple months back and I was buzzed enough to get things started. Never did it before but we’ve had some awesome edging sessions. We usually meet up outdoors and it’s just us rubbing dicks and nutting but he’s invited me to a bate party in a few weeks and I’m real nervous about it. I never jerked off with anyone before him and I love handling his cock but I don’t know about the party scene. What happens? What are the other guys like? What if I can’t perform? What if I see someone I know?

I feel obliged to go because space is limited and he’s invited me.

Can you offer any advice?

Thanks Zeke

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Hey Zeke, thanks for getting in touch, and congratulations on finding a buddy to share some strokes with!

You’re not the first to be worried about the prospect of their first bate party and if you’re not ready for it then just let him know. I’m sure he’ll get it. He was probably the same way when he first went.

If you do go, in my experience, you’ll have a great time and probably be going back for every event. Bate parties are pretty chilled out and relaxed and there’s never any pressure to do anything or be anything other than who you are. It’s just a bunch of guys all hanging out and enjoying a good stroke. After the first ten minutes you’ll probably be fine with everything.

I can only speak from my own experience but most parties (assuming it’s in a private dwelling) have between 5-15 attendees. You’ll find all kinds of guys there too. Parties I’ve been to have had members in their 20’s and 30’s, up to guys in their 50’s and 60’s. Cliques can form, but that’s pretty normal and doesn’t really impact the events too much. Sexuality doesn’t really play any part in these events either. I’ve met very straight jock types who have wives or girlfriends, and very gay twink types who are just there to play with other dicks. You’re all there for cock play so none of that really matters.

No one pressures anyone into anything and every party I’ve been to has been limited to hand-on-cock and nothing else. If guys want to do anything else they’ll find somewhere else to go and enjoy that – the party is all about the stroke and guys are conscious of that.

Not everyone there is gonna be hard all the time. I’ve been to some parties where a few of the guys have shot a load within the first ten minutes and then they just hang out lending a hand here and there or just chatting and watching. It’s not uncommon for guys to shoot off a round, chill out for a while, then get back into the stroking with a second load. Everyone there knows that sometimes a dick will be floppy, it’s not like this is a surprise to anyone lol

You also really shouldn’t worry about seeing someone you know, because you’re both in the same position. In a city as big a Dallas it’s highly unlikely anyway, but even if you do see a familiar face they’re there for the same reason, they have no ammo to use against you if they’re participating too.

Most events like this are planned well, they know what they’re doing, they’ve had parties like this a hundred times already, but I would suggest a few things…

1. Carpool if possible, or get an uber. One of the biggest problems for holding parties is that most want to take their own car and the neighbors will be pissed.
2. Get the address when you arrive, just in case you need a cab or something to get home later.
3. Take something to clean up with, just some napkins or Kleenex. They’ll probably have all this arranged but it’s best to be independently prepared.
4. Take a little lube of your own if you can.
5. Spend some time edging before you go to increase your eagerness and horniness. You’ll be far less worried about it all if you’re desperate to shoot off a load from the moment you get there.
6. Get numbers of guys you’d like to meet up with again. I can’t stress this enough, too many dudes share a bate with a random buddy, forget to swap numbers and then regret it after. Sure, there are plenty of guys out there to stroke with, but keeping in touch with one will probably lead you to ten others.
7. Have fun, don’t worry about things so much.

Thanks for sending in your submission, I have no doubt that you’ll have a great time if you go, you’ll probably meet a great bunch of guys and have a load of new buddies to share some good times with in the future. Please come back and let us know how it goes!

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