How do I get my wank mate to swap hands and stroke each other?

Submitted by Phil

I’ve been wanking with one of my mates for about a year but we never wank each other and I really want to give it a try.

We’re both married and we just kind of fell into wanking together last summer when we were drunk and watching porn one night. It was easy enough, just a couple of horny men enjoying a good movie and we got our cocks out and had a wank.

I sent him a video off a tube site a couple of days later and then he sent me one saying “what I’m wanking to right now”. A couple of days after that we went for a beer at lunch and showed each other some more videos and then we went back to his place and had another wank.

I never thought I would be interested in rubbing dicks or giving a guy a hand job but all these experiences other guys have had make me wonder what it would be like to feel his cock. He’s a got a good looking dick and I would really like to make him cum just to see, but I don’t know how to make it happen.

How do guys suggest it to their mates?

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Hey Phil, thanks for the post!

It’s great that you’ve got such a good mate to share wanks with, you’re already mostly there you just need that little push over the line to see what it’s like. I’m pretty certain that once you guys have wanked each other it’s gonna become a regular part of your jerking.

First of all, you could try just being honest and making a deal that you give each other a hand just to see what it’s like. I know a few guys who started out that way, kicking it off with some DIY wanks together and then making a deal one time to see what it feels like to swap dicks. Not one of those guys who started that way ever went back to DIY with their mates. Once a guy feels another cock and lets a mate wank him everything changes and it becomes the norm for them – in my experience.

If just making that “deal” isn’t your thing, you could try finding some porn to watch together where the guys are rubbing dicks. There’s plenty of MMF threesome porn out there where the woman frots their cocks together and that could give you a way to talk about what it would be like if you had a woman there and she did the same, how would he feel about that? What would your reaction be? I wonder what it would feel like if that happened? etc.

Alternatively, there are loads of other guys out there who would eagerly let you jerk them off and offer the same back. Maybe you should look for another guy to try it with first before mentioning it to your mate?

We have a PERSONALS section where you could submit a post and maybe find a local guy to rub dicks with, or you could try getting some BuddyBate buttons, check out how many other guys have one in your area, you could just bump into a guy walking down the street wearing one and be frotting dicks with him a few minutes later.

Whatever you do I hope you’ll let us know how it goes, we would love to read about it.

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