My Wank Mate Doesn’t Want To Swap Dicks

Submitted by TugSkillz

Always wanked with mates and got into swapping hand jobs with all of them but I’ve been wanking with one lad for a few months and he doesn’t want to wank each other. Mutual wanks is a big part of it for me. Even though I’m mostly straight I love wanking cocks and making lads cum and getting a hand with mine is a big part of it.

We meet for wanks every week. Most of the time we wank in the woods near his place (his gf is always at home). Sometimes we go to the gym and if it’s quiet enough we have a wank off in the shower.

He’s into watching each other and likes seeing me cum. We always cum together because we’re both waiting to see the other one jizz and that always starts us off.

His cock is great. I’ve got about 6.5 inches and his is about 7.5. Both uncut. I really want to wank him and even if he didn’t want to wank me I would be cool with making him cum.

Every time I offer to wank him he turns me down even though he’s always watching my dick and he likes *almost* bumping dicks together. I think he likes teasing me with his dick. We had a few times where our dicks got close and our tips slapped together once and he pulled back for a while before coming in again and almost doing it a second time.

I don’t know what to do. I know he would enjoy it if we wanked each other but he doesn’t seem able to get over whatever it is in his head that stops him. He gets so hard and he cums so much when we wank together. He even admitted that he cums more when we’re wanking than he does normally.

Will he ever want to swap dicks?

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Hey TugSkillz

Thanks for sending in your experience and question.

All guys are different. There are a lot of men in the bator world who are only interested in the friendship and bonding of two men masturbating freely in each other’s company. Some guys are all about seeing a cock being enjoyed in front of them and they might never evolve to mutual masturbation.

I agree that most men love it when they try mutual masturbation with another guy, but not everyone is into the same things.

Even if you’re right and he is incredibly curious about it and wants to push himself to experience it, some men have psychological barriers which dictate their limitations and there’s nothing you can do about it.

You can’t force him into it, you can’t coerce him, it’s not your place to dictate what he should and shouldn’t enjoy when it comes to wanking with guys. I’m sure you know that already.

All you can do is continue to offer occasionally, but don’t make it a big deal. Don’t pressure him to try things he’s not ready for. One day he might surprise you and just want to try it, but if he doesn’t then you’ll have to accept that he’s just not that into physical contact with other guys.

You obviously have fun together, even if you think it would be more fun to do it your way. Would you rather not be wanking with him at all? I doubt it.

You have the freedom to find other men who are down to frot and wank the way you’d like, so I’d suggest just letting him do it his way until and if he’s ready to try something new, and if you feel like you’re missing out on that hand-cock contact you enjoy you can find other guys to experience that with.

Personally I think he might just need more time to get into the idea and eventually he’ll probably relax enough to see what it’s like. It sounds like he’s very curious about it but he just has a barrier there that he needs to deal with. You never know when that might happen.

In the meantime, enjoy your friendship, enjoy your wanks, enjoy the visual display and the camaraderie that comes from your shared wanks. It’s better than not having that shared enjoyment between you.

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