Am I Ready For A Circle Jerk?

Submitted by Matt

I met my first bate buddy last summer and we’ve been having great times jerking it together. We’re both married men in our 30s and hanging out and jerking it to porn was a great way to relax and get away from things. It’s been a great experience so far.

He found another bate buddy a few weeks ago. He’s another married guy a few years younger than us and he has another bate buddy too. He started talking about us all getting together for a circle jerk but I’m not sure how I feel about it.

Me and my buddy jack each other and like to frot dicks and I have thought about finding other buddies to experience it with too but I’m just not sure about growing our circle out like this. I’m not sure what it is about it all that makes me nervous. It might be because I’ve got a 6 inch dick and this other guy has a bigger and fatter cock according to my buddy. Maybe it’s just about that?

I have thought about group jacking and what it might be like to have a bunch of dudes all enjoying our bate together but although it’s horny to think about I’m just real nervous about it.

My buddy really wants to do it but he said it wouldn’t be the same if I wasn’t there and enjoying it too.

Thanks for any advice.

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Hi Matt,

I think this concern is quite common. A lot of guys who read the blog here have one-on-one bator friendships and maybe think about going to a party or joining a club but decide not to.

Some guys are just into the friendship and fun of a smaller encounter rather than the group experiences and that’s okay. It’s not for everyone. If it was for everyone events like the London Jack Off Club would probably have to be held every night!

In the same way, some guys are just about the freedom of jerking it in the company of other men and have no interest in swapping. We all have our limits when it comes to all kinds of things so don’t feel like you have to push yourself or do things you’re not comfortable doing.

At the same time, do you really know you wouldn’t be into it if you don’t experience it?

I can’t really offer advice on this other than just to reiterate that it’s your cock, it’s your pleasure, it’s your choice. If you don’t want to try something then no one can push you into it. It doesn’t seem as though your buddy is trying to do that, but maybe just talk to him candidly about this and explain that the group thing isn’t for you, at this time. Maybe that will change in the future and you’ll want to give it a try?

I also think you shouldn’t hold him back from experiencing it. It doesn’t sound like you are, but just make that clear to him. Maybe you could kind of use his experience to decide how to proceed? If he attends a circle jerk and tells you how it was maybe that would encourage you to try it too? Perhaps his new friends will be okay with him filming a video or two that you can watch and see how it went?

Personally, I think the group bate can be one of the most intensely erotic experiences a guy can enjoy, but I also think the one-on-one pleasure of two cocks together can be just as intense when it’s a good friendship and you’re familiar with each other.

So, I would probably encourage him to give it a go and you can ask him how it went. I’m sure it’s not going to change your personal enjoyment together, and maybe it will open you up to the prospect in the future?

Whatever happens I hope you’ll come back and share the experience with us!

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