Curious about wanking with my mate

Submitted by F in Luton

I think I might be bisexual, or maybe I’m just curious. I started thinking about wanking with my mate last year when he showed me a video of him and one of his other mates fucking a girl when they were on holiday in Majorca.

I work with him and we go to the gym together a few times a month. I’ve seen his cock a hundred times and I’ve even seen him hard and trying not to wank it before. Ever since that video and seeing his dick being sucked while his mate fucked her I’ve been getting hard whenever we’re in the showers too. He’s even commented on it and took the piss even though he was getting hard at the same time.

I’ve always been a bit of an exhibitionist so that just makes it even worse.

Don’t know if he’s into it or not and I don’t know how I can find out. He’s obviously cool with fucking a girl with another guy there and although I never saw the whole video he says she sucked them both off and they cum in her mouth so I’m guessing they probably touched dicks. Does that mean he’s probably down for wanking off with a mate?

Not sure what to do now. Really need to experience it, even more now that I’ve read all the other posts here about it!

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Hi F,

Thanks for your post. I say this a lot when I’m adding to posts like yours but you’re definitely not alone. For every guy out there regularly wanking off with a mate there’s probably another ten who want to but don’t know how to get things started.

It’s not easy. There’s so much taboo about what guys should be like and what they should be interested in sexually and although there are certain rules we should all agree on there’s plenty of nonsense that’s ingrained in us socially that shouldn’t be there. It doesn’t necessarily make you bisexual just because you want to wank with a mate. There are all kinds of complex reasons why so many guys are into it, from just wanting that close friendship and sense of brotherhood to having a fetish for masturbation (which most men have, although they don’t recognize it as such).

Likewise, a lot of guys who pop in here and see the posts probably think that it’s all about jerking each other off, but there are plenty of guys who have no interest in touching another dick or having a mate touch theirs, for a lot of guys it’s just about being there and enjoying the experience in the company of another man who likes the show and wants to show off too.

When you think about it this isn’t at all unusual, millions of men have threesomes with their mates, go dogging, go swinging, watch porn with five guys all banging one girl… are they all considered odd because they’re rubbing their dicks in the company of other men? No. So why is it considered different between good mates?

I have a general rule about whether friends are into it or not, and it all depends on how open they are with nudity and talking about sex. The fact that he’s shown you a video of him in a threesome, and the fact that he’s fine being hard around you in the showers, tells me he’s probably not gonna lose his mind if you’re in a scenario where you might both have a wank.

That doesn’t mean he’s gonna be into swapping cocks or any physical contact (it seems you might not be interested in that either, at the moment at least) but he doesn’t sound like the kind of guy who would shy away from shooting off a load with you.

I would recommend thinking about creating the right scenario. We’ve talked about it before on the blog. Spending time together with just you guys there, with the opportunity to wank, will probably make it happen. Just a couple of days ago we had a post from another guy who got wanking with his mate because he left a porn DVD out when he came over. Try that?

I’m sure that even if you don’t get the chance to wank one out with your mate there will be plenty of other opportunities you can explore with other guys in the future. Maybe consider getting a BuddyBate badge and see what that might lead to?

Good luck with it, I hope you’ll keep us updated.

BuddyBate Brad