It’s the closest friendship two guys can have

Submitted by Quinn

I’m a 43 year-old straight white male, married and with a family. I’ve been jacking off with a colleague for five years.

I love this blog and I read every post. I come back daily. I’m on the newsletter and I have BuddyBate buttons and stickers too. I put one on my locker at work and I wear my button whenever I go out for a drink.

I started jacking off with a colleague while I was working a job in Lubbock, I’m based just outside Houston. I planned to stay at a hotel for the couple weeks I was there but another guy who was working for the company offered to host. That other guy is now my closest friend, and my jack off buddy.

We had a lot in common already and after just a couple days sleeping on his couch we were hanging out. One thing led to another and he caught me jacking off one night. It was awkward but the next day he said it was no big deal, we all do it, yadda yadda…

He caught me again a couple nights later and one thing led to another. We watched porn and talked about women. We jacked off and compared dicks. It was fun, easy.

Things just went from there and soon we were jacking off a lot. I was missing my wife I guess. He was dating and hooking up a lot but although I had the opportunity to get some I was faithful. I would never dream of cheating on my wife. Jacking off was good enough for me.

When I came home from that job I was in a funk for a while. I didn’t really get it at the time but I got to thinking I was missing my new buddy. I don’t know when it happened but some time in my 30’s I lost all my friends. It probably happened over time, not calling back, working too much, having a family… it all just caught up and I realized that he was the only real good male friend I had and he lived in another city. We were still talking every few days and we planned fishing trips and concerts. The first weekend we went fishing we spent most of the time jacking off. That was the first time we agreed to jack each other off, just to see what it was like. It was awesome!

If you’d asked me ten years ago if I would ever jack off with another guy let alone touch another guy’s cock I probably would have knocked you out. But here I am loving every minute of it.

We never talked about our friendship the way I am here. It’s not the kind of thing you say to another guy but I think we were both experiencing the same thing. A year after we met the company was talking about moving some of the guys from Lubbock to Houston and he had the opportunity to move, and he took it.

I helped him move into his new place. It was fucking great to have such a good buddy closer to home and we started hanging out every week. I could go over to his place and we’d spend the evening drinking beer, watching porn and jacking off.

My wife hooked him up with one of our neighbors but our bate sessions continued.

Today he’s the closest buddy I ever had. He’s more like a brother. I think jacking off together is what brought us to this place and I couldn’t be happier about it. I think about some of the other friends I’ve had in the past and they don’t come close to this. We have no secrets from each other. We know all our fantasies and quirks, we talked about all kinds of shit and we both know we could tell the other almost anything without any bs. We both love our respective partners totally but the friendship we have is on another level.

It’s hard to explain it. Most guys have good buddies, guys they could probably call on at any time of the day or night and they’ll be there, but when you’ve seen a buddy stroking, felt his cock, watched each other cum and cleaned up the mess together you become as close as two guys can be without actually being lovers. There’s something real special about that and it’s hard to put into words.

For us it’s all about the friendship we’ve built. We’ve shared so much together now I can’t imagine what my life would be like if I never went to that job in Lubbock, or he hadn’t moved here.

I don’t want to tell other guys reading this what to do, you’re all on your own journeys, but I can only speak from my experience and say that having such a good friend is awesome like you wouldn’t believe. If you can find that buddy, do it.

Neither of us have jacked off with any other guys before or since we started but we’re both open to finding other guys to join in and see how it goes.

Thanks for the site. The stories here from other guys are awesome to read but most of them are all about the sexual aspect of it and I wanted to add some balance and talk about the friendship side. I hope you’ll post it.

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Hi Quinn!

Thank you so much for this submission! You’re right, a lot of the posts are almost exclusively sexual, but I think a lot of the time guys are skipping over their friendships and going straight for what the readers usually look for. Us guys are a horny bunch, after all!

I love reading about the experiences guys have had from a friendship perspective and yours is a great example of that, which is why I’ve put it in the Op-Ed section rather than experiences.

I’m so glad you’ve found such an awesome friend to explore and share with, and this is what it should be about for a lot of guys. It doesn’t have to be all about the horniness of getting off, it can be about the bonding experience and how you enrich each other’s lives.

I wish you decades of enjoyment together, and please come back to share your experience when you find some other guys to share your bate with.

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